Unplugged: Things Our Fathers Did not Tell Us by Jacob Aliet
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UNPLUGGED – What Our Fathers Did not Tell Us
As children, we learnt from Disney that if you treat her like a queen, she will treat you like a King. We were also taught that a man should go on one knee while proposing to a woman because women are the prize. We were also taught that we should listen to our wives and be gentlemen because women like nice boys they can trust and not bad boys who weren’t faithful. Men have tested these ideas, and thousands of men have lived to share their experiences and results. This book consolidates what men have learnt about intergender dynamics: what works and what does not work.
Today, marriage rates are declining. Forty per cent of single black women in the US are single mothers who prioritize getting babies over getting in a stable long-term commitment, aka marriage. Why do many young girls today prefer becoming side chicks to high-value men rather than settling in marriage with an average man?
In 2019, the American Psychological Association labelled traditional masculinity as harmful. But if so, why are women striving to be like men? What is the impact of masculine females on relationships? Why are women being told to “act like a lady and think like a man” if masculinity is harmful?
What attracts women to men, and how can men maintain that attachment? In the age of social media, where women get free attention and validation from hundreds of men, how do men in long term relationships deal with partners who feel they have so many options?
Women file for divorce 70-80% of the time in the western world. How can men navigate marriage with modern women incentivized to divorce by divorce laws? Why did the Greeks equate the feminine with chaos, represented as the goddess Pandora? Why are most oracles in epics female, and why did God tell Adam that his first sin was listening to Eve?
On average, men’s handgrip strength, testosterone levels, and overall masculinity is declining, while women’s enrolment rates in universities have outstripped those of men. Among trans adults, the majority are men who say they were born female. Why? Why is masculinity on the decline?
In 2021, before a whole school assembly at Brauer College in Victoria, Australia, the male students were all told to stand up, turn to a girl in their class and say sorry. Yet they had done nothing wrong. Based on Census Bureau historical data and Morgan Stanley forecasts, 45% of prime working-age women (ages 25-44) will be single by 2030—the largest share in history—up from 41% in 2018.
This book traces the origin of the steady decline of the man’s role in the family. It also seeks to help men understand female nature, revitalize masculinity and build full-stack men who can navigate relationships while providing leadership in an increasingly gynocentric world that has largely silenced men.
This book will plug you from comforting lies to cold hard truths.
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UNPLUGGED – What Our Fathers Did not Tell Us
As children, we learnt from Disney that if you treat her like a queen, she will treat you like a King. We were also taught that a man should go on one knee while proposing to a woman because women are the prize. We were also taught that we should listen to our wives and be gentlemen because women like nice boys they can trust and not bad boys who weren’t faithful. Men have tested these ideas, and thousands of men have lived to share their experiences and results. This book consolidates what men have learnt about intergender dynamics: what works and what does not work.
Today, marriage rates are declining. Forty per cent of single black women in the US are single mothers who prioritize getting babies over getting in a stable long-term commitment, aka marriage. Why do many young girls today prefer becoming side chicks to high-value men rather than settling in marriage with an average man?
In 2019, the American Psychological Association labelled traditional masculinity as harmful. But if so, why are women striving to be like men? What is the impact of masculine females on relationships? Why are women being told to “act like a lady and think like a man” if masculinity is harmful?
What attracts women to men, and how can men maintain that attachment? In the age of social media, where women get free attention and validation from hundreds of men, how do men in long term relationships deal with partners who feel they have so many options?
Women file for divorce 70-80% of the time in the western world. How can men navigate marriage with modern women incentivized to divorce by divorce laws? Why did the Greeks equate the feminine with chaos, represented as the goddess Pandora? Why are most oracles in epics female, and why did God tell Adam that his first sin was listening to Eve?
On average, men’s handgrip strength, testosterone levels, and overall masculinity is declining, while women’s enrolment rates in universities have outstripped those of men. Among trans adults, the majority are men who say they were born female. Why? Why is masculinity on the decline?
In 2021, before a whole school assembly at Brauer College in Victoria, Australia, the male students were all told to stand up, turn to a girl in their class and say sorry. Yet they had done nothing wrong. Based on Census Bureau historical data and Morgan Stanley forecasts, 45% of prime working-age women (ages 25-44) will be single by 2030—the largest share in history—up from 41% in 2018.
This book traces the origin of the steady decline of the man’s role in the family. It also seeks to help men understand female nature, revitalize masculinity and build full-stack men who can navigate relationships while providing leadership in an increasingly gynocentric world that has largely silenced men.
This book will plug you from comforting lies to cold hard truths.
Jimmy –
Very well put 💯. Looking forward to read more definitely buying it
Ayden –
Best writer ever. Toxic feminists and single mothers are at war against the author for calling their BS out.
Ken Captain –
The best a man can read. Worth every coin.
Mark Naiz –
Such a nice read for both men and women if you read it objectively, I would highly recommend it to my closest family and friends
Amos Kipruto Chemonges –
This is one of the best reads for both men and women. It teaches men how to understand and cope with the 21st century empowered women to the advantage of women. I recommend it without a blink.
wafulamichael8 –
The best read in 2022. Every man should buy this book either for themselves or other men. It gets you into the world of manhood and trains you to balance your manliness and manhood.
Hillary Lelei –
Men have been sold comforting lies for centuries, this book is a must read for any man who wants a relationship with the new empowered 21st century entitled modern woman, . Unplugged or perish. I have my copy and I am getting several for my three sons who will have to read and internalize everything by the time they are teens
William Cira –
The most informative book I have ever read. A must have for both women and men.
Makara Muthoni –
What Men never learnt from their fathers. Recommended for every Man living in this 21st century.
Jane Wanja –
I have an amazing time reading this book. I’ll definitely gift it to my kids. As a single mother I can finally understand men.
Evans (verified owner) –
An eye opener! Deconstructs some of the myths and lies that have been peddled for long. A must read for men and women!
Sam Kahura –
The best book a man can read. Insightful and full of thought provoking anecdotes.
Nigel Wanyoike –
Great work.worth buying
Eddie Agwa –
Quite an eye opener. Definitely worth reading and not only because I’m a Man. Women should read and learn a thing or two.
Benjamen Mutisya –
This is the absolute guide to masculinity. You need this to be a full stack man
James Moriasi –
Every Kenyan man must read this. Our fathers never prepared us for some of the realities we face today as men but this book is a complete guide. It empowers you to be a man in this highly feminized world.
Ja Loka –
This book will save many men. Many many men. Feminists will hate it because it opens the eyes of men making them less vulnerable to their manipulations and the femicentric world order. It takes the man back to his basics.
Jeffa Kisilu –
The ultimate man eye opener. Epic
Eric Otiato –
The truth that liberates the 21st centry man is all here. A must read for every man
Joyce Kipngetich –
In a society where masculinity is slowly fading, this book is on a rescue mission. Women want masculine men and the authorhas tried his best to take our men back to track. Excellent read.A woman who reads this book will never make a mistake when choosing men
Ruben Kamau –
The ultimate man maker
Caroline Wesonga –
I know the target audience is men but women will greatly benefit from reading this book as it will help them to tell the kind of men that are marriageable and those to keep away from. It can also help you make your man, a man of value, a full stack man. Excellent read
Janet Banda –
I have read this book twice and while there are some parts I dont agree with as they contain gender stereotypes and subjective bias, I am attracted to the authors mastery of the English language and intersexual dynamics. In addition, the book has helped me undersrand some aspects of woman nature I was not aware of, and I also have a better understanding of men courtesy of the book. This is an A-class author
Christine Waithera –
While the book supports partriachy and seems to discourage gender equality, the author has done an excellent job of addressing the declining masculinity in the modern society and csllimg out men to reclaim their lost glory. I like the way the way the author calls out behaviours that men think are masculine but are not, like alcoholism, gambling, and infidelity. I like the way the author encourages men to focus on creating value and working on themselves, because I believe the modern society is failing because of shortage of value creating men. It is an excellent read, and it will make the society better by helping men reclaim their lost glory
Bernice Akinyi –
I now understand men better courtesy of this book. If you dont want a low value man in your life as a woman, read this book and you will understand how to pair bond with men of substance: Excellent read
Ruth Mutoni –
The real life anecdotes and stories spice up the whole work. Great work of Kenyan authorship
Emma Wayua –
While the author seemingly encourages traditional patriarchy and submission of women, which I disagree with, he does an excellent job of addressing the weaknesses of the modern man. Days when men were men and gone and the author acknowledges that the society is full of males who can’t man the hell up. Indeed, only 20 percent of males are men, only a few can take up the burden of performance in a masculine way. One thing I disagree with the writer is on the issue of alpha male. Alphas are born not made. Trying to make an alpha out of a beta and sigmas will have disastrous consequences of betas trying to pretend to be alphas. Let betas remain betas and suffer the consequences.
Duncan Mucogothi –
Lessons that our father did not teach us because they could not envisage the realities the modern man is facing are all contained here. Geab your copy and learn how to manouver the uncertain modern world of dating, family, marriage and workplace
Elaine Mumbi –
I am in love with the linguistic prowess of the writer
Faith Musimbi –
The writer fully understands male and female nature and uses it to write a compelling masterpiece on intersexual dynamics. Contains some subjective bias against women but also admonishes weak men and provides them with an actionable plan of becoming a full stack man
Nyambosero –
Excellently written
Peter Mbithi –
Wanna be a full-stack man? Read this book. It contains lessons you will never find anywhere else
Alex Kyalo –
Can the author make an audiobook version of this masterpiece? Some points in this book would be more impactful when listened to yhan when read. Great work.
Steve Ogola –
The quality of writing is dope. Those in love with linguistics, great English, and high level mastery of writing skills will fall in love with this book
Kilemi M’Mugwika –
Our fathers did not teach us the lessons explored in this book. They could not have foreseen the issues the modern man has to contend with. Full blown hypergamy, femicentric social order with its corrosive emasculation, etc. Arm a young man with a copy of this book as a birthday present and you will have shaped his future more than any other present can do
Dr. Margaret Wanjiku –
I read the first few reviews and decided to get the book to find out what might have infuriated my fellow women that much. After a week of reading, I can authoritatively state that none of those who have given one star reviews have read the book. Their comments do not reflect the contents of the book. There is nowhere in this book where the author promotes femicide or abuse of women as some reviewers indicate. Well, the author is seemingly biased against women, accussing them of stuff such as hypergamy, monkey-branching, and cuckoldry, however, he does not whatsoever advocate violence against women as alleged by some charlatans who seemingly have not read the book. It is unfortunate that some people would prejudiciously negatively review something they have not read just because they feel it attacks their toxic brand of feminism. Shame on the first nine female reviewers. It seems you ganged up to review something you have not read. Once again, shame on you!
Morris Mwongera –
This has to be my favourite Kenyan author at the moment. The quality of writing is unprecedentedly high. Does he have any other book?
Mwangi Ephantus –
Excellent read. The anecdotal evidence stand out. What a great way of illustrating points.
Derrick Ngara –
This should be the official set book for the mens conference. Every man must read this and learn how to
1. Focus on value creation not chasing women, love, and suchlike nonsense. You will learn that women chase value, so if you want women, be a man of value.
2. Avoid traps that women set which have sent many men crashing down.
3. Understand how modern institution such as the church and the media emasculate men and how them have created a highly feminized society. Men must learn how to stay clear of the traps set by this institutions and remain focused
4. Understand the female nature. Once you understand the female psychology, you will never be a victim of their schemes, hypergamy, capitalistic consumerism, and cuckoldry.
5. Avoid anything that does not make you a man of substance
Get a copy and read this wonderful masterpiece. Its the ultimate manmaker
Carol Wachuka –
My attention to this book was captured by some social media complaints by some women accusing the author of misogyny. After reading the first few reviews on this site, I decided to get a copy so that I can jump into the bandwagon of bashing the writer, albeit with evidence. However, after reading the book, I found no reason because contrary to the position of the few complainants, this book is a strong social commentary. It describes the society as it is; people as they are. You see, the target audience is male and you dont expect the writer to massage feminism, femininity, and femicentric ideals when talking to men. Just like many women, I am also angry with the writers attempts to inferiorate and demean women by casting then as the main source of emasculation and the biggest source of mans problems, which is not the case. But I ignore what the writer has said about women and focus on what the book attemps to do to our men. Any woman can tell you what it means to be with a weak man. Have you ever been in a relationship where you feel like you are two women in the house? Most parts of the book is trying to address that problem. Its trying to save the society from weak men; save women from the ignominy of having weak men around them. We may be angry with what the writer is saying about women but I appreciate the books effort to remodel our men. Get your man this book and you will thank me later.
Sekina Muntaz –
Unplugged was brought to my attention by a myriad of controversial sentiments from my circle. I wanted to read it for myself, own my views. While I may not agree with some aspects,but my people say ‘Mgala muue haki yake mpe’. The book is very factual but you must read it objectively as a woman as the target audience is clearly stated as male. A must have for men and a good read for women. I particularly appreciate the author’s attempts to restore masculinity in society. Easily passes as the male’s hand book.
Good Job! Looking forward to more like this.
Sekina Muntaz –
Unplugged was brought to my attention by a myriad of controversial sentiments from my circle. I wanted to read it for myself, own my views. While I may not agree with some aspects,but my people say ‘Mgala muue na haki umpe’. The book is very factual but you must read it objectively as a woman as the target audience is clearly stated as male. A must have for men and a good read for women. I particularly appreciate the author’s attempts to restore masculinity in society. Easily passes as the male’s hand book.
Good Job! Looking forward to more like this.
Elon Chuol Biel –
This is the intellectual version of the advice Amerix and Kibe has been giving men. The author is moderate in that he avoid extreme gender bashing and digital hooliganism associated with the two. He takes men through an intellectual trip to masculinity, using evidential anecdotes that relate to some of the experiences men are going through today, which the advice we got from our fathers cannot solve. I like this intellectual brand of masculine content.
Doris Akinyi –
I dont expect a male writer to exercise gender neutrality so I ignored the subjective treatment of women in some chapters and focused on what this book means for me as a woman interested in a high value man, a man of substance. I now understand why women end up with suboptimal men; prioritizing nonsensical traits when looking for a man. The book will help women understand men more, learn who a high value man is and go for them and who suboptimal men are and avoid them.
Alpha Wasike –
Ten things I have learnt from this book
1. Our fathers and grandfathers never foresaw the modern marriage, family, dating, and relationships dynamics and could not have prepared men to face the highly volatile and uncertain social landscape. Men must learn from their experiences and those of their peers.
2. Women are naturally hypergamous, its their nature and there is nothing much men can do about it. As a man, if you want hypergamy to work for you!, create value. Be the man women would leave their men for.
3. A man must provide more than 60 percent of the household budget. If provision for wife and husband is 50-50, there are two equal men in that house. If she provides more than 50 percent, she is the man of the house, and soon!, disrespect will creep in.
5. Women love men because of what they are not who they are. You are the most faithful person in the world but have nothing? She will leave you for a man who cheats on her with a thousand bitches as long as he can provide. Therefore, love will exist as long as a man has value. Your faithfulness doesn’t count if you cant meet her economic needs.
6. Women always have a plan B. There is a man somewhere on the bench waiting to come onfield as a substitute should things go south in your relationship/marriage.
7. Widows outlive widowers because men dont know how to move on.
8. Single mothers are a no-go zone especially if the baby daddy is alive. The man who made her a mother first will alwayls be the number one regardless of how bad the fall out was. Watagulanaaaa.
9. The value of a man increases as they age and that of a woman goes down as they age. The girls you could not attract when you were 21 and broke will come looking for you when you are 30 and riding high economically. But their sex market value will have gone down and you will not look at them twice, you will go for the 23 year olds with higher sex market value. That is why women as they age attract broke younger men in their early 20s because they have money but low sex market value, and men as they age and gain high sex market vakue because of higher income attract younger women with high sex market value.
10. Men must create value to survive in the modern dating and marriage landscape. You looks, height, abs and fidelity count for nothing if your are not financially stable especially past 25.
Maggie Wakesho –
I learnt about this book when someone sent its nuria link to our girls-only whatsapp group and asked us to give it a one-star rating as it promotes gender violence and misogyny. I read the authorial introduction above and I was taken aback by its gender lopsidedness. However I decided to do a review after reading the whole book so that I can accompany the one star rating with a comprehensive vitriolic review that will teach the author a lesson. I finished reading the book an hour ago, and I dont see any reason I should give it a one star rating. I like this book because by ranting about women, femininity, hypergamy and all those anti- feminine terminologies used, the author seems to inadvertently acknowledge that women have become so poweful in the modern world that the advice our fathers gave men to tame and subjugate their women no longer works. The author acknowledges that modern men have to go outside the box to deal with the overpowering strength of the modern woman. The writer acknowledges that women have come from three goals down and are now leading the match 5-3 deep into the second half and men must desperately look for a three goal comeback to win this game. I wish I could give it a six star rating because the whole book inadvertently recognizes the power of the woman that has created a new world older that cannot be dismantled using the advice that patriachy traditionally gave men. Thumbs up author for acknowleding that masculinity is losing the match after establishing a comfortable 3-0 lead by half time.
Jane Kemunto –
Gone are the days when men were men. The author is trying to bring masculinity back to the society. I believe there are many other things that have led to a decline in masculinity that have not been explored, with the writer only focusing on the role of women in that decline. Get outside the box and see the bigger picture, Mr Aliet
Mwenda Ncurubi –
The book version of mens conference! I will donate 5 copies to some final year University students as they venture out to start life. This is a perfect guide into the future
Ronald Lemayian –
The real life stories are a gem! They povide a strong evidence base.
Ben Bosire –
Masculinity is one its deathbed but like the legendary phoenix, it will rise from its ashes and men will become great again, thanks to this kind of content.
Judith Chelagat –
Why the hell are women panicking about this book? Can’t you see it has been written in response to how we have disrupted the status quo, forcing men to go back to the drawing board? This book is an indirect celebration of feminine disruption of patriachy. When you see Amerix, Kibe, Nyanchwani, Lubanga, Aliet, Njoka and their ilk ranting and giving advice to their people they are trying to save men from the disruption we have caused. Don’t hate on them. When you see them posting, celebrate the power of women that triggers such responses.
James Ngigi Njoroge –
Can the author do a sequel to this masterpiece titled “Lessons men should teach their sons?”. Predict how the terrain will bd for men in 2040 and 50s and give advice.
Jakes Koome –
Dude can write! Oh my! Bring the fire extinguisher
Nyakwarimama –
The author has the potential to write an anthology of short stories that can end up being a high school set book.
Lemein –
Reading this book is like attending mens conference
Celine Simatwa –
I would like to see a female writer respond with a well written book. Someone take advantage. I am not a good writer.
Claire Wangui Mwangi –
One of the dimensions in the Geert Hofstedes cultural analysis framework is masculinity versus femininity. Organisations that operate in a high masculinity cultural environment perform better than those in highly feminine environment. The worlds fastest growing economies today are in high masculinity cultures such as China and India. Highly feminine economies such as those in the EU are losing their place to China, India and other oriental economies. A masculine cultural environment prioritizes ambition, productivity, performance and growth, according to Geert Hofstede. Therefore, this book will go beyond restoring masculinity to our society and create a highly masculine cultural environment which is vital for organisational and national economic growth.
Priscilla Wairimu –
The happiest women in this world are highly feminine women, those who don’t attempt to become men,those who do what a woman must do in natural settings. The happiest men in this world are the most masculine ones, those take their rightful place in the family and society and perform the natural roles of a man. Masculinity is declining because men have become feminine, men, as the author has stated several times in the book, have refused to live up to the burden of performance. Masculinity cannot thrive in a culture where men are living off women, where men, expected to provife are increasingly becoming couch potatoes where men are spending hours and days doing things that do not add value to their lives and families. Masculinity is all about value creation. Continue driving that message into the heads of some of these young men living off women; into the heads of men lost in alcoholism, porn, gambling, endless sherehes and immorality because those are the major eaters of masculinity. Good job Mr. Aliet.
Brenda Chebet –
The decline in masculinity is responsible for
1. High incidence of single motherhood
2. High divorce rates
3. High juvenile deliquency rates
4. High abortion rates
5. Chronic alcoholism in the society
6. Chronic social instability
7. Corruption and mismanagement
8. High suicide and homicide rates
9. Get rich quick mentality
10. Reduced national productivity.
I am glad someone has made an effort to bring masculinity back. We need more such book. Feminists will disagree but I maintain, a low masculine society is chaotic because it defies nature.
Shivachi Shitoka –
Do you offer writing lessons? I am yet to come across a Kenyan author with such high levels of writing prowess. The quality of writing, English, organisation of thought, expression, and persuasive rhetorical appeal is on another level of high.
Winnie Mwangangi –
Someone sent us here to rate the book badly, some of use ended up buying the book. In life you need both haters and fans. Anyway, I disagree with those who read misogyny in this book. The brand of men this author wants to create is what we women of substance want. I am buying my boyfriend a copy of this book for his birthday (I will not give him mine) so that he can know the kind of man I want. Great book!
Martha Naiten Naikumi –
Its the quality of writing that mesmerizes me.
Chebet –
I have given a 4 star review in appreciation of the quality of writing, however I strongly disagree with the subjective treatment of the modern woman. Men can find their way up again without demeaning women, treating women as a problem that needs to be solved, and without using women as a scapegoat after veering off the masculinity course. Despite the controversial position taken by the writer, this is a high quality work and only a brainless idiot would give it a one star review.
Wanjohi Karanja –
Preach preacher!
Kodo –
Currently trending top among Daystar staff, students and alumni
Charles Letting –
Great book
Simon Mbogo –
The Man Talk Collumn on Saturday Nation originally by Oyunga Pala should be revived and given to this writer. This is the modern day Oyunga Pala
Phoebe Omutanyi –
Yaani Kenya has this pedigree of authorship? Our own Paulo Coelho!
Dr. Charles Ngubia –
Phoebe, don’t compare Aliet with Paulo Coelho. An advanced literary critic will tell you Coelho is very shallow. I have read five of Aliets books before Unplugged and I can confirm he is deeper than Coelho. Get a book called Levant Church, read it and tell me what you think.
Engineer Chiuri –
Its a shame that I first heard about this book from a Morrocan expatriate who is my supervisor at work and has been quoting excerpts from this book while trying to describe to discuss the weird stuff he sees from Kenyan men. I had to get a copy, and…It was a 4 figure well spent. The book provokes thoughts, opens eyes, and make a rallying call that will set Kenyan men back on the right track.
David Mubiru –
Where can I get this book in Uganda? Ive read the reviews and its something worth reading. I am eager to have a copy.
Chakava –
Someone above said women have disrupted the status quo? What a dry joke! A lion decides to sleep and Zebras think they now run the jungle? This book is waking up the sleeping lion, and it shall roar again very soon. Its back to the basics
Warungu –
This author has read widely. This book combines culture, philosophy, theology, literature, sociolgy, psychology, currenyt affairs, showbiz, I mean there are references from almost all spheres of life
Charles Kinini –
This writer should have a You Tube channel. He can easily fill the void Kevin Samuel left. While we already have Kibe, we need an intellectual and a more rational version too. Great book. Well thought out and evidemce-based content. A-Star Writer.
Jack Rono –
I wonder why men are expected to perform their Biblical role of provision without fail but the women they provide for refuse to play their role of respecting and submitting to their man. Marriages fail when men cant provide because no woman will respect men who cant provide. They also fail when women fail to respect men who provide for them. If you are man and cant provide, dont get married or get out of that marriage if she is providing and you are not. If you are a woman and cannot submit or respect and submit to a man who provides, you have no business getting married or staying in the marriage. Marriages can only thrive in natural and biblical order of male provision and female submission, and I believe that is the point this author is trying to pass across.
Kinoti Kathurima –
I borrowed someones copy on wednesday and I have now finished reading. My only reward to this excellent writer would be buying a copy and gift it to someone else. I will actually buy two copies. Keep Writing Sir. This is the kind of content weve been lacking. You exactly know what we want.
Wesley Mokogoti –
Nothing is as orgasmic as high quality writing. I had to keep aside a project I am working on to finish reading this book as I found it hard to put it down once I started reading
Andrew Mbito –
Bought this book after a review by that Nyamachwani guy of Memos on Facebook. This is exactly what I needed. After a series of misteps, mistakes, and miscalculations in life, I was on the verge of giving up. However, I now believe I can start allover again and make the right choices, inspired by this book
Barry Roy –
I am a young lecturer in my late 20s, I witnessed and still witnessing complicated intersexual dynamics in campuses with young men mostly on the receiving end. After reading this book, I believe its important we form boys clubs in our tertiary institutions to teach young men how to be men of value, men of substance, help them avoid older generations in their 30s and 40s have been making. As someone who interacts daily with men aged between 18 and 25, I can tell you these people are highly feminine and masculinity will on its deathbed by the time these people get to 35-40, we must do something to rescue the generation and this book would be an important resource. How I wish this author and like minded people can visit campuses and talk to young men because he is undoubtedly an authority in matters masculinity
Stacys Mum –
This book was the subject of discussion on our chamaa today, four out of the 25 women, including me have read it. I know a few will get copies in the coming week due to eargerness to read the controversial stuff we were disagreeing about. The discussion started with recent confesion by size 8 about how submission saved her marriage, thats when someone brought this book into the context. I am of the unpopular opinion that we need patriachal order back, we need strong men back, in agreement with the author, something two thirds of the women in the group disagree with. I may disagree with the authors tendency to blame women for some of the problems men are experiencing because I fully believe men are 100 percent to blame for declining masculinity, however, I believe low masculinity is a threat to social stability, its a threat to both men and women. Its hard for women to be women when men cannot play their roles. I believe the biggest source of stress among women today is low declined masculinity not patriachy. Decline in masculinity produces deadbeats, gigolos, fuckboys, house-husbands and all sorts of low value men. We need highly masculine men back. Thats not negotiable! Where are real men??
Chris Githaiga –
If a woman calls you a real man or a gentleman, you have been emasculated, you have been reduced to the feminine version of a man. Read this book and discover who a real man is.
Gerald Murimi –
Ile ukweli iko kwa hii book! Wacha tu. Almost all mistakes I have made as a man have been outlined here. Fortunately, the author has provided an action plan of getting out of the mess and I am on my way to experience a new lease of life. I will always cite this book as my turning point in life. What a book!
Tony Wambua –
I bought this book out of peer pressure, I didnt even read it at first, then after too much noise about it on social media, I decided to read. Today, I had to take a day off work to complete reading as I found it hard to put it down. One thing, this writer did his research well, understood what exactly is and gave us a comprehensive solution. I just wish I had read this book 5 years ago, but its never too late. Thumps up Jacob.
Eric Karimi –
Long live Jacob. This book will touch and change lives!
Stephen Letinina –
I sum up this book uding less than 20 words:
Low masculinity does to a society what a recession does to an economy
Dennis Katembo –
Wow! What a resource! A constitution for men!
Torome Lempaa –
Just finished reading the book. Another round of reading while jotting down notes
Chewa Junior –
Kumbe hii ndio kitabu Burale amesoma? Many of his recent case study stories in his men mentorship classes are straight from this book.
ishincky –
This is one of the best books I have ever read in my entire life. The examples are relatable and the language simple to understand. The author has done thorough research through literature and first-hand observation. And what strikes me is that these examples are things that are happening right in our lives and we know a person or two who have undergone the examples provided, if not us. This book elicits emotions from women who have not even read it and in deed it confirms the author’s stand on women being emotional as a survival instinct. The truths and evidence in here are not feminist-friendly and tough pills to swallow, but speak sense and open the lid to matters as they are currently. This book is a masterpiece and equips men with the truth of intersexual dynamics and slaps the foolishness out of our faces. I can go on and on but this is a book that should be well preserved and passed from one generation of men to another.
James Mbuthia –
Have you ever read a book that directly talks to you? As in ”
1. This is who you are
2. Here are examples of who you are and consequences
3. This is why you should not be who you are
4. This is who you should be
This book has exactly done that to me
We talk of transformational leadersship, well this one is transformational readership.
Judith Maneno –
I borrowed my mother’s copy and read. Now, this saturday I am going out on a first date with a man I met recently, and I have a plan…get him a brand new copy of this book. It will give a perfect picture of what I look for in men. What a real man should be has been deeply and comprehensively captured by this outstanding author.
Justintipis –
Now I know my problem!
Agnes Mositet –
The best thing men can do is to be as masculine as possible. In a society full of masculine men, women will automatically go back to femininity. Women are becoming masculine or exhibiting masculine traits and behaviors to fill a void left by men as they oscilate towards femininity. The onus is on men to be as masculine as possible and there will be no space or reason for female expression of femininity.
Chacha Maroa –
The best book I have read since 2007
Jeremy P. Kiprop –
In five years, this will be the most read author in Kenya. Future Nobel material if he remains consistent at delivering such outstanding content
Kirk Patrick Ngari –
The author has masterfully crafted a masterpiece that identifies a problem, explores its foundations and origins, analyses its manifestations using evidence observational and popular literature data, uses allusions to a wide range of sources such as religion and ancient greek mythology and literature to clarify concepts, and importantly provides the way forward for men. In simple term, its like a doctor who identifies a condition, provides a comprehensive diagnosis complete with history of the condition, symptoms and comorbidities, and then provides an evidence-based treatment plan. I really enjoyed reading this book
Linda Boit –
Strong men make strong women, strong generations, strong institutions, strong economies, strong societies.
This book will undoubtedly make men great again
Arap Korir kipyegon –
This book like a factory, manufactures sound and responsible men out of boys! It’s an inspired authorship. Our generation and generations to come will remember JACOB ALIET. Thank you sir!
Nyamari Omache –
God Bless you Mr Aliet. I doubt anything else will ever touch my life the way this book has done. You have set me up for a new beginning. Once again, God Bless You
Kristine Konuche –
As a feminist (non-toxic) I STRONGLY disagree with the author on many issues BUT I celebrate the international standards of authorship achieved by this book. At one point while reading the book I got angry especially at the demeaning labelling of women BUT the HIGH QUALITY everything else in the book would massage the anger away. Aliet, you are INTERNATIONAL!
Lorraine Rukaria –
Its a 5 star rating for me! onto unrelated stuff, someone has mentioned Size 8 and submission in one of the reviews. If a woman has to submit to a man, it has to be a masculine man, a strong man. Size 8 submitted to a man with ear rings?What a waste of submission? Makosaaaa!
Njeri wa Mugo –
We say men are dogs, men are cheats, men are players bla bla bla, but I would prefer the dog version of a man than the weak version. A weak man is the scum of the earth; the worst human beings there shall ever be. There should be no place for weak men in the society. This book has done an excellent job of addressing a burning issue in the 21st century; masculinity decline. Perfect work.
Chris Ouko –
The research is on point
The writing is A-star
The argument is biased
The referencing is scholarly
The topic is timely
The price is pocket-friendly
4/5
Seth Kamau –
I havent read such an impactful book for decades.
Ian Kagwa –
Book of the year, Kenya!
Abdikadir Aden Mohammed –
Our sons will not say “our fathers did no tell us”. What to tell them is all here. This book will help us rectify our mistakes and shape a future generation of strong men.
Jacksin Keli –
I should do a dissertation on hypergamy
Daniel Gatheca –
What works for me is the 10 strong warnings the author gives men. While reading this book, llook for at least 10 mistakes you should avoid as a man. If you avoid them, your life will never bd the same again. You will set your self up for social and financial excellence
Simatwa Rotino –
The chapter on mental point of origin is just a blast.
John Ntaragwi Muthaura –
Reading the book third time this time round with a note book. I wil commit to its ideals!
Craig Mosomi –
After reading all the reviews, I will now buy the book
Don Bosco Nthiga –
I read this book and suddenly found Amerix veeery shallow. This is what men need to read.
Jerim Owalo –
I saw a review of this book by Silas at a time when I had a book review assignment. I came to Nuria and found more reviews and wrote a comprehensive book review. Now I want to read the book! I must get a copy on Monday
Rebecca Indimuli –
Great book. I like they way you emphasized against public expression of emotions by men. Siku hizi wanaume wanalia ovyo ovyo in public. While its not healthy to supress emotions, public display of emotions by men is a sign of declined masculinity. Mimi mwanaume analialia ovyo ovyo hadharani namrudishia mamake aendelee kunyonyesha. I can’t
Dr. Tabitha K. M. –
Feminists are hating this book because they don’t think rationally buts lets face it, strong women are celebrated because of their masculine traits because they are masculine. Martha Karua was once referred to as “The only Man in Kibakis cabinet because of her highly masculine mien when it comes to dealing with issues. If you can celebrate highly masculine women as strong women, why would you a book that encourages men to become more masculine? Unless you want men to become women and women to be men
Muthoni Mugaciku –
A 21st century man cannot afford to be weak. Its a crime. 21st century problems require high masculinity to solve. Weak men will bring down the modern civilisation. Keep spreading the good gospel. Excellent book.
Muraguri –
Jacob Aliet, Silas Nyanchwani, Chomba Njoka, Lubanga and Amerix should come together and organise a real mens conference in February. You can take advantage of the rest of the year to write more content to sell alongside what you have published to sell on that day. Guys, take advantage and own the event. Anyway, it a great book.
John Mindo –
I read this book in a day! One whole sunday, indoors, glued to the pages. Excellent work.
Wako Liban Godana –
This book is great in terms of writing quality, but I am against the tendency of giving weak men labels such as simps, manginas, white knights etc in the name of calling a spade and spade or trying to sound macho and highly masculine. You cannot save someone by insulting them. You will drive them further into femininity, and your efforts to save them will be counterproductive. Unfortunately, this book is full of labelling for both weak men and women
Karis –
I have been dating a single mother for two years. I have seen Amerix consistently warning men against single mothers but I was too much in love to heed to his message. I was to marry her this Dec. Then I read this book, and what Amerix has been saying became clearer to me. I am aborting this mission ASAP. Thank you guys for opening my eyes.
Cyrus Njathi –
Kizungu nayo! The author’s mastery of English is impressive
Steve Muriuki –
Kenyan Book of the year
Sammy kithikii –
I wish all men could read this book.its full of wisdom.
Rioba Dennis –
Men , especially those in their twenties should invest in this book. People like me are using lessons from this book to recover from the mistakes we made in our 20s and early 30s. At least those in their 20s have a resource to guide them to avoid the mistakes we in our 40 made. One day you will look back and view this book as one of your most worthwhile investment of your youth.
Perminus Mwangi –
Unplugged is not a book you read and then keep away. Its a book you keep close to you for future reference, to consult it the way you do with the Bible, Dictionary, or constitution. It is life guide for a man.
Kenneth Ngunjiri –
I have a son-in-law who needs this book.
Moses Kinuthia –
Masculinity aside, many teachings of this book are consistent with the teachings of books such as
1. Neuropychology of self discipline
2. Failing forward
3. Thinking for change
4. The magic of big thinking
Great work!
Derrick Munene –
A classical relationship masterpiece for both men and women. Unplugged qualifies to be a blueprint for modern day Behavioural Science. Its in congruence and in synergy with the works of other great masculinity writers. Every man should have it as a moral and factual guide
Frank Kiptoo –
Keywords and phrases ringing in my mind after reading this book: Full Stack, Burden of performance, value creation, scarcity mentality, hypergamy, brifaults law.
Yvonne Hamisi –
I am a feminist and I seem to like this book because, I mean, feminism fails to make sense when masculinity is on its deathbed. The focus of real feminism is gender equality not production of another inequality where men have to in future fight to be equal with women. You are doing a good work of ensuring the balance feminism has struggled to create does not tip to the disadvantage of men
Tony Peter –
I celebrate this Kenyan author. He completely understood the subject matter and then presented it in the best way possible, creating one of the most compelling work of sociological/pydchological literature.
Jeff –
I should buy my friend Benjamin Zulu a copy of this book. I have always told him that he gets everything about intersexual dynamics wrong, that he barely understands men and women and his rhetoric is merely populist, mostly telling people what they want to hear and refusing to confront the reality with the hard truths. This book is completely opposite of Benjamin Zulus school populist school of thought. It does not baby sit anyone. It serves the hard truths, without caring whether it will hurt or not. It does not massage egos, it will not make you feel good, but it will make you think hard and act. This is it!
Adams Mkenya –
I have seen this book being regularly discussed and recomended in our boys club whatsapp group many times and I recently decided to get a copy and read. Some of the case studies exactly mirror my situation. I lost my job a few months after the onset of COVID, my wife, for whom I had taken a loan to start a mini supermarket in the hood suddenly became an animal. For my own peace, I had to move out with only my clothes laptop and documents. Luckily,the boys helped me acquire a motorcycle, I worked as a boda rider for 14 months before I got another job. The truths in this book hit me harder because of the experience.
Ted Moriasi Mokaya –
Oyunga Pala and Tony Mochama must be proud with this writer. The journey they started in the late 90s is gaining momentum more than two decades later, thanks to content like this. As a father to 22 year old, I have a perfect resource which I will use to teach my son. What a book!
Xavier –
Amerix needs to read this book. Now this is real masculinity content.
Seth –
If every man got unplugged, the gambling, alcohol, lodging, and fast food sectors would be hit hard. Some sectors are maintained by low value men
Mugambi Martin –
The perspective in this book is consistent with what I have always believed. The problem the modern man is facing are self-inflicted. Shit started happening when man made man the center of his attention, pedestalizing women, worshiping women. Our forefathers did not worship women. The did what a man must create value and provide, and masculinity thrived? Want maculinity back?
1. Starve women of your attention
2. Be scarce to women
3. Make them your least priority
4. Create value and more value
5. Be masculine in your thoughts, interactions, behaviors, tc
6. IMPORTANTLY,always ask yourself, what would have my grandfather done in a given circumstance?
Boiyon –
Great book
Kevin MK –
The book has unplugged me from so many comforting lies instilled by society. It is a turning point for my thinking when it comes to Masculinity, Women, Relationships and Self Discipline. I can testify of the truths I have found in the book that I have seen in peoples lives that I never got to understand. Every young man should read this especially in their early 20’s.
Felix Muriithi –
I thought I was a man until I read this book. My journey to manhood has officially started, courtesy of the valuable truths inside here
Kyalo Maundu –
Machakos county is likely to be the first county to have a female governor and senator after August 9 and my question is, where are the men in my county. Machakos men, please lets read this book and make better decisions in the next general elections. We are likely to be the laughing stock of the country if this happens.
Nicholas Kemboi –
The best thing you can do after reading this book is write dowm all the qualities of a low value man and a high value man, then ask yourself, what low value man traits do I have and which high value man traits am I missing then work towards eliminating the low ones and gaining the high ones. That is exactly what I am doing thanks to insights from this book.
Zack Kiarie –
Have Benjamin Zulu and Robert Burale read this book? I am offering to buy each a copy and send them back to the drawing board. Unplugged is exactly what a man should be!
Robert K –
Quite frankly one of the best books I have read in a while. The author pulls out all the best stops to describe me, what I have done and also those I have related with (women). As a single, divorced father of two sons I have learnt lots and recommended the book to my group of divorced men. A must read …
Polo –
I went for marital counselling in church then read this book just before my wedding which is due in August. It undid almost everything I was told. I have been unplugged kabisaa
Mwalimu Atsenga –
In the first weekend of June, some guys organised a men mentorship seminar targeting public servants workers in my county, including teachers, county employee, police forces, etc. We are about 450 men each paying 1000 bob. One month later, I borrowed unplugged from my brother and guess what, everything the speakers in that seminar said were word for word off this book. I should have added sh 200 and bought a copy of unplugged instead, anyway, haidhuru.
Maiyani –
I teach family law and I got alarmed when a student heavily cited this book in a paper related to divorce, I requested him for the source so that I can read more. Just finished reading, and it has really opened my eyes.
Frank Kathurima –
My father bought me this book on my 23rd birthday last month. I didn’t even read it until I saw a confrontation between dudes & chics on a whatsapp group about the contents of this book last weekend, and I was like “wait, aint this the book my dad gave me?”. I read it in less than two days then came to google to see what people are saying about it, thats how I landed here. I think my dad had studied me very well and seen the mistakes I was about to make, then responded proactively with the best intervention possible. I swear this book will shape my life more than anything I have read in my four years of campus. I wish more fathers could buy my agemates a copy of this book. If you are a young man, forego one tuesday of Pizza and invest in this book and you will thank me later.
Jimmy Mbogo –
This book will provide a turning point for many Kenyan and even African men. When the history of African Masculinity is written, this book will undoubtedly be recognized as one of the game changers. It comes at a time when the low masculinity crisis is biting hard. Thumbs up author for this timely rescue resource for men.
Kavita –
Hon Patrick Makau in a political banter with Alfred Mutua last month advised the latter to read a book called unplugged so that he can be man enough. I had to look for the book. Without any doubt, its the greatest ever addition to my library. What stands out is the quality of social research, the author is extremely well read, and he excells at providing highly persuasive examples. Well done!
Pius Wandeto –
I read someones copy but I must buy my own for future reference.
Judith Murigi –
I bought my husband this book a few weeks after it was launched and I can already see some change in behavior and attitude. You can even hear him quoting it during call with friends. Quite an influence
Dr. B.G. Kariuki –
This book aptly captured what happened to me in the 90s. I married a fellow primary school teacher in 1977. She advanced her studies and rose to the position of a high school teacher in 1982 while I remained a primary school teache. She rose to a position of deputy principal in 1986 and a principal in the mid 90s. The more she rose and I remained stagnant, the more disrespect in the marriage. At one time, the disrespect was too much especially when she started earning 4 times more, and ran out of control. I almost walked out to marry a more submissive wife but I decided to deal with the root of all this, my stagnant career. Between by 2002, I had risen from a primary school teacher to a university lecturer. The more I worked on myself, the faster the respect came back. I could have walked out, I could have started fights to force her to respect me, but I am glad I did the right thing; working on myself, becoming a high value man, both financially and socially. My marriage was turbulent in the 90s but I brought it to stability by creating value in me. This is one lesson I have always passed to my sons and nephews. You cannot win a womans respect or submission if she is making strides and you are stagnant. The man must create more value in a marriage than the woman. The opposite is recipe for chaos. Sometimes all you need to stabilize your marriage is working on yourself and create value, women automatically are attracted to value.She is now a retired school principal, I am still lecturing in my late 60s. Sometimes I joke and tell her, I am happy she disrespected me when I stagnated because she made me who I am today. A man shall not stagnate!
Alex Kitheka –
If you act unmanly near Mavoko M. P. Patrick Makau, he always recommends this book and saus it will teach you how to be a man. I am so curious. I need a copy.
Faith Ndunge –
This book is the talk of almost all whatsapp group I am in. I had to google it. How can I get a copy at Lukenya University, Makueni?
Kemunche Anyona –
I read this book and laughed at my younger me. 25 years ago in my early 20s, my girlfriend cheated and got pregnant. Oneitis is a dangerous disease because, I later forgave her and decided to bring up the child. As Donald Trump would say, “Big Mistake” I was given an award winning character development. To cut the whole story short, she is still married to the baby daddy, and the son I raised for two years has just completed campus. Anyway, I am not complaining as I learnt an important lesson in my early 20s, understanding women and their nature, and Ive never made a mistake in my relationship with women again. Its good we share these lessons with younger men, so that they can avoid the mistakes we made. Great book.
Zachary Mule –
Its like the author knows my experience with women. Two of the examples closely mirtor my experience, after which I got tired of the games played by Nairobi women, I decided to get a 19 year old from my Village in Makueni and bring her up as a wife. Within a year, she was worse than the Nairobi girls, I was running away from. Fast developed an apetite for rich men and I was in short time a nobody. She is now 23, the most perfect definition of a slay queen, one of these girls who regularly appear in the galleries of the social media accounts of popular clubs. Character development ya kienyeji is more painful than ya any other woman.
Jane Nabutola –
In simple terms, this writer is trying to tell us “marriage was not meant for masculine women and weak men”. Why do women get masculine? To fill the vacuum left by men with low masculinity? So whats the solution? Men getting more masculine and giving women no reason to get maaculine
Jamleck Miano –
Wives treat low value husbands as if they are their first borns. Ukitaka kuheshimiwa kwa ndoa, be valuable, create value, stay above mediocrity, be a cut above the rest. Powerful book
David Kamoni –
This book completely alters one’s cognitive response to social issues. Nowadays anytime I read or watch news about a intersexual dynamics scandal, I interpret it from the UNPLUGGED framework. It has really sharpened my sociologocal thinking and my response to whats happening around us on matters relationship, marriage and family.
Jimmy Carter Muriuki –
Its true our fathers didnt teach us most of these lessons, thank you for blessing men with this valuable resource Jacob. One lesson my father taught me, that I can see addressed here is the danger of marrying single mothers. In August 1996, when I joined campus my father told me, I know you will meet girls you like there in campus, I will not tell you not to have sex, you are a grown up, make your decisions, but always use a condom, huku nje ni kubaya, and secondly, and this one I insist, if you feel like wifing one of the ladies you will falk in love with, make sure she does not have a kid from another man. My son, don’t make that mistake, and if you ignore me, siku moja utanikumbuka ukilia. That message delivered on the 1st week of August 1996 still rings in my mind and as my son joins campus next week, I will relay the same same message his grandfather gave me 26 years ago. Lets continue making men!
Ian Mbugua –
African men,
Listen to this man,
No school will teach you these lessons,
No university wi teach you these important truths,
Period!
Craig Mosomi –
This writer is an excellent social researcher. He must have invested volumes of hours to conduct research on the subject matter.
Dr. D. Musonye –
Just read some reviews and its good people are sharing their experiences with women, and we are learning a lot. In my case, I was once married to a single mother. One day, eight months into the marriage, I bumped into a whatsapp conversation with her best friend, and she was telling her. “I can’t have kids with different men, if I want another kid, it will be from my baby daddy, not this goat, huyu ni wa kulea”. I sent her packing the same day. I urge men to take the lessons in this book seriously, especially the issue of hypergamy, its a sharp weapon formed against us.
Karim Abdul Nassir –
This book makes some not easily noticeable trends quite apparent. For example, after reading it, I became aware of the gradual process of weakening them man by the media. Remember in the 1980 and 90s, we had very serious journalists on our TV stations and their focus was news and information. The few female presenters were hired on the basis of their journalistic competence not looks. Then things started changing in the early 00 and beauty became a hiring yardstick by TV stations, and thats how screen sirens populated our media houses. If I were to interpret this from the Unplugged conceptual framework, the target of this development was men, not women. It was meant to make men spend more time on their TV screens and away from their purpose. It was meant to have men focus on the woman and not the news and information. The moment you focus on the catwalking slay queen reading the news, you cannot focus on the real issues contained in the news or absorb useful information. I now understand how the media has been used to weaken masculinity. Thanks for giving us a strong conceptual framework which is now helping us to understand and interpret what has been and is happening around us and we are now aware of the traps set in our paths and how to avoid them.
Ken Ambani –
The tragedy is that the modern society has more low value men than high value men. The number of simps, orbiters, white knights, gamblers, alcohol addicts, gigolos, ben tens, mamas boys, and obese men combined is hundred times higher than men of value and substance. What we have is a social pandemic, but at least we have a vaccine called UNPLUGGED. What a timely intervention
Daniel Wambilianga –
The three Key phrases from UNPLUGGED,
1. Scarcity mindset
2.Mental point of origin
3. Burden of Performance
Represent the main weakener of the man and the main interventions that shall make the man strong again
Wonderful book
Pastor T –
1 Corinthians 15 verse 41 clearly resonates with the principal of burden of performance deeply explored in this book. Paul says ” 1Corinthians 15. There is one glory of the sun and another of the moon” which means there is one glory of the woman and another glory of the man. Women are given a glory early that must then be cultivated and men must wait for their glory. Man’s glory is only granted after a process of death and resurrection. When the burden of performance is done right, there is a beautiful synergy between a woman’s hypergamy and a man’s burden of performance. We need one another, and these characteristics of male and female move us to complete one another and the mission God gave us. Hypergamy drives men to perform to maintain desire from women in general and his wife in particular. When the man performs, the woman is drawn to him to complete his mission.
Professor Mutisya –
I like how the writer has empahasized the concept of “Burden of Performance” because it lies at the core of masculinity. I think one thing that need to be made clear to all men as they take up the burden of performance is that the burden of performance can’t merely be “a performance;” that is, it can’t be an act. This is not something you put on for a while to “get the girl” or, if you’re married, “get sex.” If you consider the burden of performance a technique so that you relax once you achieve the immediate goal, then the relationship will not be sustained in a good and healthy way. This performance must become who you are. It may begin by doing things that “aren’t you,” which means that you are not comfortable with them or you want to remain slothful and not do what you ought to be doing. But as with all changes that must take place in mind and body, you discipline yourself to do what you should do, and then you become what you are supposed to be. You change the way you think and act by the way you discipline your mind and body. The burden of performance must become a lifestyle for a man, its comparable to what is called form in sports. A sportsperson or team can only win when on form. A man must be always on form
Francis. K. M. –
I acquired this book after a reading a newspaper review recently. First, let me say that it has opened my eyes, I am now aware I have problems I never thought I have. I think I am one of those men who unknowingly buy love and affection from women instead of earning them by creating value. What I always thought is the normal way of approaching relationships has been labelled in this book as a serious masculinity flaw, and I strongly agree. Arguably, my perspective has changed, and from now onwards my focus will be value creation not simping.
Francis Agbonlahor –
I agree with the author that without a mental point of origin, life is very burdensome. Such a life requires a lot of thinking, planning, obsessing and in most cases, a person has to act outside their value systems to please others.
Men need to stop living an others-focused life, and get in touch with who they really are. Ask yourself” What do I want, what’s important to me, and what are my needs? ” Stop thinking that if you took care of the other person’s needs first, yours will be met in return. That is a recipe for disappointment and a road back to inadequacy. Your personalities should flow naturally from a state of unfiltered authenticity. A state that many men have buried out of fear, insecurity, and shame.
This book will take you back to your default settings and empower you to flow naturally putting a laser sharp focus on your goals, purporse, and values without being unsettled by others and their perceptions. Once you read this book, you will never “God” any other human being.
Brian Muchiri –
I have read many books but none is as impactful as Unplugged. This one immediately alters ones mindset. You realise you have either been living a lie, blinded by femicentric imperatives, or operating way below you potential. Once the harsh reality hits you, there is no turning back because you immediately get unplugged.
Aaron Gatuku –
I’ve learnt many new things courtesy of unplugged. Its like undertaking a whole sociology unit in campus but the most impactful chapter is the one on mental point of origin. I wish the author could write it as a separate book. Kudos, Jacob. Its one of the greatest books I’ve ever read.
Steve Sindambi –
This book will definitely wake up the sleeping lion and make it roar forever
Mariam Yanda –
In a highly feminised world where masculinity is on its deathbed, this book tries to rescue our men. Excellent read!
Alex –
I’ll admit this book passed through my hands at the right time for me. The facts stated here are what I needed at this point in my life. What really really stood out for me is be your own point of mental origin, the facts given to show how important it is they were very impactful. I had to order another copy for my bro. What an eye opener.
Pato –
I’ve never read a whole book in less than a day, before but Unplugged took less. I got my copy on thursday and was done within 16 hours. This is a book you wont dare put down once you start reading. Its exceedinglly engaging and captivating, its the best book by a Kenyan I have ever read.
Abdulrahman Hatimy –
Ahaa, hichi ndio kitabu sasa, wenzangu, hichi ndio kitabuu. Ukishakisoma, ukaelewa na ukayafuata yale mwandishi ametilia mkazo basi wewe ushakuwa mwanaume kamilii. Hakuna lolote ama yeyote atakayekutisha, utaacha tabia za kujipendekeza kwa wanawake, utie bidii, ujilainishe wewe mwenyewe, wanawake ndio wanajipendekeza kwako ukishakuwa mwanaume imara na mwana ume wa maana. Mwandishi amewasha moto, wanaume wote waje wauote huu moto, waondoe ile baridi iliyowaingia wakaishi kama simba aliyenyeshewa. Heko Mwandishi.
Kahang’u –
Unplugged is all about making men great again. Any man who reads this book will undoubtedly experience a Renaissance.
Wendy –
Hate it or love it; Hypergamy keeps many men on their toes. The fear of losing their women to better men is what drives many men (not all men), in relationships and marriages to achieve higher goals. Well, we hope as many men as possible will read this book, because women, and the society in general are safe when the man is strong. More than half of the problems plaguing the modern society; drugs, run away gambling, corruption, insecurity, rape, bad governance, road carnage, alcoholism, juvenile deliquency, among others are products of weak masculinity.
Mary Anyango –
Two weeks ago I go online and post “Men, what is the most perfect gift a woman should buy her boyfriend?”. I wanted to gift my man something valuable. People suggested different things but three of them posted “get him a book called unplugged. I googled the book and decided to get it after reading the authorial summary and few reader reviews on Nuria. His birthday comes and I give him the gift. The following day were supposed to go out for a picnic an extension of his birthday but he refused to get out of the house. The moment he started reading the book, his attention remained on it for the next 10 hours, which made me curious about it. Immediately he put it down, I took it up, well it took a few days for me to finish, and what I can say is, ladies, if he is celebrating a birthday, ask him whether he has read unplugged. If he hasnt, there is no better gift than unplugged by Jacob Aliet
Curtis Oluwatosin –
I wish this book was available in Nigeria. In the whole of Africa, its Nigerian men that need unplugged than the rest of Africa. In the meantime, I will buy two more copies and sent to my friends back home, may be the gospel will start spreading with those two resources. Its a book that will undoubtedly rejuvenate the African man
Muirani –
For the single men,
Ukishasoma hii book hakuna dame hii dunia hauwezi date. You will understand women and their psychological dynamics and what to do as a man to attract any kind of girl you want. Form ni saa ii ni kusafisha rada na hii book. Mbogi ichangamkie bukuree!
Susan Munywoki –
My response to this book is ambivalent. On one hard the harsh judgement of women was discomforting. One the other hand, its brazen and unrelenting critique of weak masculinity and the way forward it provides for making men great again will have a positive ripple effect on the society. Nothing threatens the stability of the modern society than weak men.
Raphael Mwangi Wambugu –
Marriage or a Long Term Relationship (LTR) as Rollo Tomassi calls it is subconsciously premised on our attachment style.
Psychologists have clustered attachment styles into four-Secure, Anxious, Avoidant and Disorganized. These attachment styles are hugely influenced by our earlier socialization and caregiving and largely impact our future intersexual relationships.Most people are never aware of how they interplay in our lives until we face an existential crisis either in betrayal, heart break or what is popularly known as “ Character Development “. We develop coping mechanisms-Fear, Flight, Freeze and Fawn to prevent us from the hurt and the discomfort of facing our skeletons.
I believe what the author of this wonderful book had in mind is the development of a Secure attachment style that allows us to show up as our authentic selves and strive to become the best version of ourselves.This is what the author calls “ Full stack man”.This is premised on self awareness, personal growth, internal validation of our self worth ,development of a purpose/mission, having a life mantra and personal acceptance.
In my analysis, the author clearly depicts that by being our own mental point of origin, maintaining our frame, understanding female nature and embracing the burden of performance, we are taking full responsibility of our selves and will be ready for whatever life presents us. And the above presents the recipe for handling rejections.
One of the greatest life lessons that a man can embrace is learning how to handle rejections.Rejection is never personal and as Rollo says “ Rejection is better than regret” . And the modern man is so unprepared to deal with rejection due to what the author calls “ Comforting Lies”
Unplugged prepares men for this.
Kavengi Njoya –
Wueeh. Moto sana. Maaahn, this book is so on point! Am on fire! To hell with simping, orbiting and time wasting. The journey to being a full stack man starts NOW.
Anonymous –
I read this book immediately after undergoing a messy divorce mainly caused by some of the issues explored in here, and without any doubt, this book acts as the most perfect guide to my post-divorce life
Raghav Raj –
I bought a copy for myself in May and later added two more to ensure all the male employees read the book. Over the two months, the is a significant observable change in anyone who read the book in terms of attitude, behavior, and productivity. I have decided reading this book an official part of orientation of male employees in the factory.
Demarcus Roberts –
Back home,the civil war of the early 1860s was followed by the reconstruction era. Similarly, Unplugged is bringing the masculinity crisis to an end, and ushering in the era of masculinity reconstruction. What a great “remaker”of the man.
Perminus Gachewa –
I respect the work Amerix and Kibe are doing towards on matters masculinity but Jacob Aliet takes the movement on a whole new level with unplugged which adopts a highly intellectual perspective and provides an expansive scope in terms of coverage of issues and solutions.
Karagu Mrook –
Try to imagine of the beautiful country would have if all men above 18 read unplugged.
Peter Wakaba –
Kenyan book of the year. Mad respect, author.
Kariuki –
Will definitely recommend the acquisition of several copies for the Egerton University Library
Alfred Bonaya –
This book should never go out of circulation. My 6 months old grandchild’s agemates will still need this book 20-30 years from now. Luckily my grandchild has one we will keep for him and any other male child born in the family.
Makau King’ola –
The holistic approach to the masculinity crisis, its roots, manifestations, and solution is admirable. Unlike many authors who approach their topics superficially, Jacob Aliet has explored the topic deeply,touching all its corners using the most comprehensive research ever witnessed in Kenyan authorship
Harrison Chomba –
I read Unplugged at the most opportune time. I will use it as one of the main references in my doctoral thesis which focuses on the
commodified fantasies of femininity
Valerie Sanaipei –
Its the depth of research that wows me. The author clearly did his homework coming up with a breathtakingly marvelous product.
Mahianyu wa Mugo –
Thank you for sharing lessons on things our father didn’t teach us. They are insightful, valuable, and will transform many men. Another problem we are facing as men are things our fathers taught us that either don’t make sense or interfere with a free will. I think that is another issue that need deeper exploration because many men out here, especially Kikuyu men, are suffering as they try to stick to nonsensical things our fathers taught us.
D.B. Kiptarus –
The choice of the title is excellent. Everything about this book is all about getting out of the sockets in which we’ve been plugged, firing us back to freedom
Christopher Maina Onsika –
I don’t remember every book I read as I’ve read many but I will always remember unplugged, and yap loudly about it. I will reference it in many of my social conversations as no work captures modern reality more than unplugged.
David Mworia –
I can personally relate to some of the issues addressed inside here. After a balon d’or-esque character development, I came to the conclusion that the Bible should have an eleventh commandment that goes “Thou shall not domesticate streets”. Its rare to find a book that speaks to me so personally, exactly pointing at my past and present weaknesses, and charting a clear recovery road-map
Wahome Thuku –
Spent the whole night reading the book, just completed it at 7.am. Its a book once you start reading, you cant put down. Its a book once you complete reading, you strongly feel the need to be an entirely different person.
Mike Kasanga –
The concept of burden of performance has been adequately covered in this book, but I have some questions; Is there a clash between modernization and the burden of performance? Have the trappings of modernity distracted todays men from what they must do? Has modernity and its characteristic features weakened masculinity? because I also feel men need to unplug from the negative modernity influence for them to shoulder the burden of performance.
Nderitu Mahiga –
Men must focus on themselves, must not put women at the center of their attention, must stop simping, but there is a misconception out there that regaining masculinity requires men to trash women, mistreat them, and insult them. Treat your woman nicely and respectably without making her the center of your attention. You can make her feel like a queen without worshipping her.
Willem –
Ookay! I am done reading the book everyone is talking about and now I know why everyone is talking about it and why I should also talk about it. As a teacher in a boys high school, I must create a program that will gradually instill these truths in the boys, and I am thinking of introducing the book to teachers in other boys schools and collaborate the future like-minded ones to create a program targeting wider population of boys.
Ben –
I unfortunately, I could not have foreseen the current
intergender dynamics to prepare my sons.
Anonymous –
Thank you for exploring some of the issues men face, especially those arising from their relationship with other women. In a future book, you can explore how men let their fellow men down because its a burning problem also, I once bumped into a past conversation between my girl and my best friend and learned she has already aborted his pregnancy,and I had to heal from a double betrayal.
Sean Khasakhala –
Campus dudes! Get this book so that you dont make the nistakes we made out here.
Thabo Mphahlele –
What made an erstwhile highly patriarchal society so femicentric? What dynamics put women at the center of the new world order? Are men victims of their own lethargy, stagnation, or victims of institutionalized feminization of the modern world? Can men regain their place, can the they upstage the femicentric world order, and how? This book answers some of these question in a no-holds-barred social commentary that will make you ditch the comforting lies and accept the hard truths.
Nelson Mandela Thyaka –
Every man in kenya needs to read this book. Great work by the author keep it up.
Patrick Sing’aru –
Glad I read this book before my 20th birthday, I am confident it will prepare me for the tough world of dating, relationships, and marriage. I now very well understand why its impossible for me to date my age mates and why I should spend more time working to build myself rather than chasing them around. Instead, The value I will build will attract them or much later. great lessons inside unplugged.
Mbari Yahiti –
We have a men only club called ‘Mantle” n campus that brings male students together to discuss our issues and create a closely knit tribe of men. One of our lecturers donated three copies if this book to the club a few weeks ago and that was the game changer. The energy the book has put into the movement is phenomenal.
Makodingo –
If there is a book that should sell one million copies by the end of the year, its UNPLUGGED!
Lecky Chiuri –
Unplugged by Jacob Aliet simply means “Wanaume Wagutuke”.
Marcus Obiero –
My college going son rarely reads so I got alarmed when he stayed home the whole of last weekend reading one. I borrowed the book from him, three days later, I was going around recommending it to anyone who cares to listen. Its the best book I have ever read in my half a decade of existence.
Winnie Atieno –
As journalist with dreams of becoming a published author, this is the kind of writer I want to become. I now have a role model. Buying more of his books ASAP.
Dominic Katoo –
Waah. This book is fire, fire, fire!
Duke Moriasi –
I teach a unit titled “The tenacity of gender power relations and gendered inequalities in a period of global transformation” and this book will come in handy. Its a powerful reference.
Karius –
Salvation is what you get as a man after reading unplugged and adhering to its teachings. Men, read unplugged and get saved. Unplugged shall wash your weaknesses away and you shall live the rest of your life as a full stack man.
David Muthengi –
Finally I got my copt of the most read book in Nairobi and it even surpassed my expectations. The author picked on an issue he deeply understand and delivery an A star product.
Shabaan –
Dear Samido
Please read this book.
Carlos Letinina –
I don’t know whether CBC will have literature set books for high school, if so, this writer has the potential to write a series of works that will definitely qualify to be literature set books in the league of “the river and the source by Margaret Ogolla, the river between by Ngugi wa Thiongo and Homestretch by Velma Pollard.
Steve Olukunga –
Definitely the Kenyan book of the year!
Wahome Karanja –
My 17 year old son in form 4 came home with Unplugged early in the week and I spent the whole of thursday reading it. At first I thought its one of their literature set books but after reading a few pages, I discovered its a powerful masculinity mentorship program. I had to research about the author, and I am interested in more of his works. Where can I get his other books?
Miano Muthike –
Its a tricky world for the man. On one hand, a woman who earns more is less likely to respect her man. On the other hand, a woman who earns less can respect the man initial but her hypergamous instinct can make her monkey branch to a better man. In such dynamics, men must be at their best all the time.
Allan Ngaira Wesonga –
The first thing that came into my mind after Mulamwas recent scandal on 8th of August is Unplugged. If there is a Kenyan man that needs to read this book its Mulamwa. He is the most perfect example of a weak man, a man who cant unplug from her hypergamic ex, a man who does almost everything against the ideals of unplugged, scarcity mentality and zero mental point of origin. Someone introduce Mulamwa to Unplugged. Dr, Kingori, where are you?
John Osiemo –
I’ve read hundreds of books but Unplugged hits differently. The urge to change and be a different person starts even before you finish reading the book
Pius Katana –
If only Mulamwa read unplugged! The book can save the boychild
Theophilo Mwai –
I will recommend this book during all my interactions with men. I must ensure as many men as possible read unplugged because the future of manhood and masculinity depends on the extent to which men adhere to the teachings in here.
Lewis Esaranda –
Someone get Mulamwa a copy of unplugged ASAP. Dude is insultingly masculinity left right and center!
Darius Kathurima –
The money I spent on Unplugged will go down as the most well spent money this Year. Unplugged gives you 100 times more value than some of these seminars we attend for only 1200 shillings. Best value for my money ever.
Dennis Sigera –
In the modern society, a man cannot win while still plugged on to trends that weaken masculinity. Unplug and watch your masculinity soar to unprecedented highs and set yourself on a path to a series of winning streaks
Pala Pala –
A good theology recognizes psycho-social perspectives and that’s why i highly recommend Unplugged as a Pastors hand/reference resource book for their men’s programs or mother’s with sons initiatives. The evidential social dynamic information that Aliet offers in his book is so tangible. Its a keen to taking a pilgrimage and your tour guide tells you “this is the Garden of Gethsemane where Jesus sweat blood holding a chalice of affliction while praying that its either the cup of suffering is taken away or God’s will be done’ and you believe him.
A few times here and there, Aliet quotes scripture in simple agreeable and functionally eisegetic manner and this is where he trips without falling in scripture use. However, he makes up for that tripping with his factually great research in relational social dynamics.
He shares stories that we as Pastors encounter in the counseling room as we engage men or when interacting with our congregations then uses scientific psychosocial perspectives to address those dynamics in ways we cannot ignore.
This book can be used in your men’s fellowship and it will spark the right conversations. Conversations that will help men in your group appreciate how real real as a Pastor you maybe in beginning such difficult yet life changing conversations. How willing you are as a Pastor to confront lies that have been peddled in a truth bearing context that made those lies seem as truths. Aliet is not asking men to be nice, he wants them to be good. He doesn’t want them just identified as male, he wants them as men.
Advice, As this book awakens the men in your fellowship and restore their vigor (because it will if you are intentional), i pray that you remain faithful to scriptures. this book is not the Bible.
Waigwe –
I’ve now read five books written by this author and I am looking forward to the next release. He never disappoints. Unplugged is the best so far. In the meantime, please make sure your earlier book titled Magnolia flower is converted into a film. It can surpass Nairobi Half-Life.
Maundu Muli –
This book needs to circulate here in Greatwall Estate in Athi River. Nikubaya
Eve Mwangi –
I read this book with mixed feelings throughout. On the one side I thought weuh! If i was a feminist I would be up in arms. Being a middle age woman and a single mother at the same time i felt almost attacked. However being the person I am and applying my objective side I must say this has to be one of the books every man and woman should read. The nuggets of wisdom in there are invaluable. Well articulated, well researched from all speres. Now i know the exact gift to get every man in my circles. Well done Aliet.
Dalmas Onguta –
UNPLUGGED.
Intersexual dynamics in relation to psychology,philosophy,history,biology and contemporary research is one aspect that Author Aliet has critically delved into.In his book Jacob explains the female nature by giving concrete examples and the dynamics of today’s society in relation to the concept of relationships and marriage.While society has changed,laws enacted to suit interests of women,the natural inclination of both men and women in the sphere of relationships is an area that the writer intricately explores.Aliet explains female nature,how they select and what men need to learn about the dating scene as well as the necessary ingredients that can be used to ensure a sustained relationship.
It is without doubt that his understanding of history,philosophy,research as well as making references in the contemporary aspects available online and studies, makes this book an outstanding template for psychological,social and intersexual literature blueprint.This is why it is absolutely necessary to understand the nature of both men and women and to delve into the intricate details that both genders have to foster long term commited relationships.
The author states in the ealier chapters a concept of hypergamy which is a feminine characteristic.This analogy refers to the proclivity of women to date higher on both social and economic spectrum. Women are more inclined to date highly successful men and would dump and abandon men who are still strugging to have those who are fully established.This provides security and ability to be provided for should they get married to the man in their cycle.In other words, women love and and adore competent and successful men.This notion also equally explanis why majority would abandon their campus sweethearts to date a working class man who has it all figured out,but Jacob in his book UNPLUGGED encourages young men to work on themselves first because men have the last laugh and age like fine wine.No make up!.A man should make his personal improvement his core value and work on bettering himself,a man should have a single minded mindset on the pursuit of a sustainable goal and concentrate on ensuring that he meets his obligation.A man must ensure that he shoulders responsibility,accept to protect and provide,and not to be mothered and provided for by the wife.
The author in the intial chapters narrates instances where men abandon their main call,get comfortable and choose not to aim higher for the potential good as one of the mistakes that have fallen in our society.Any man must accept the role of responsibility and walk through the pursuit of attaining that nobility with their shoulders high.
By choosing a noble path men understand that it is exciting for the female species to have someone who does not pedestalize them, someone who has an ambition. Women embrace men who pursue their instrests and are not bothered by any other things that stands around them. This makes them more competent and skilled in their area of expertise and attracts females to them.Just as it has been indicated in the book,females love males who other females want because as it gives them the mental thrill and they keep questioning why the other ladies want him.It makes them know that well if I let him be, I will definitely lose him and others can have him.It gives them the urge to be with him because he attracts other ladies too.A lazy nice and unambitious one would be left wallowing in his own non exciting state.
Therefore,
In this book Unplugged, which is a must read for both men and women,Jacob explains how men can relate with women and intermingle to ensure that they compliment one another, it elevates the understanding of men and allows them to inculcate what our fathers never taught us ,it encourages men to pick up a noble goal and aim at the potential good,to embrace the burden of performance and to protect and provide.
Get your copy today at Nuria Book Shop or reach out to Jacob Aliet via his Facebook page. Thank you.
Alex Nsubuga Mubiru –
Thank you. My copy arrived in Kampala last week and I have already finished reading. Well, the book exceeded my expectations by far, and I will recommend it widely here. Meanwhile, I have set SMART goals that will ensure my life choices, behaviors, interactions, and attitudes conform to the teachings herein.
Ephantus M’Mugwika –
The first thing I did after reading Unplugged was reading my huge collection of love songs (blues, rnb, and rock). Those songs are the leading producers of simps and weak men,I had to unplug!
Cyprian Nyakundi –
Dear young men,
If you want to
1. Understand female nature, empowering you to make high quality relationship decisions and establish sustainable relationship
2. Quadruple your potential and make seismic moves that will solidify your role as a provider in your current or future family
3. Shake off the emasculating baggage around you and man the effing hell up like your grandfathers did.
Read UNPLUGGED by Jacob Aliet
Harrison Marex –
In short,
Masculinity is Kickassery!
Stephen Kariuki –
This book is a threat to the sponsor culture. Men who will get their isht togetherness after reading this book will unplug from the sponsor BS, destroying many young lazy women economically. Now I know why many young girls here in campus being talking crap about the book. But the crap talk is good because that how we got to know the book exists and bought it. Men of all ages will definitely be transformed by the book.
Davy Rotino –
I heard William Ruto say that all Kenya Kwanza MPs will undergo a mentorship program after being sworn in. For the male ones, reading unplugged should be part of the mentorship, they need to be taught how to chase goals instead of slay queens.
Allan Sainep –
I met someone looking for this book at Quickmart Kitengela, and referred them to Nuria. I think the author should use more distribution channels such as Naivas, Carrefour, Quickmart, and other chains with extensive reach now that the demand for the book has reached fever pitch.
Nathan Kasujja –
I first heard about this book during a talk show on Bukedde TV in early July and I got interested. With a few friends, we got someone in Nairobi to get us the book and send some copies all the way to Bweyogerere, Kampala. Our interest was sparked by its alignment with a study we are carrying out about masculinity crisis in Sub-Saharan africa. However, I got more than expected as this book is the most comprehensive life coach I have ever come across. I will definitely recommend it widely around here.
Scophine “Maverick” Aoko –
As a woman dedicated to fighting toxic feminism, I like it when someone gives toxic feminism the damn finger salute and treats it with the contempt it deserves. Jacob is simply telling toxic feminists “Lay low like the nobody you are b***es, Your 15 minutes of fame as underdogs on top is up, because its a man’s world, and men must be on top”. Unplugged is the de facto headquarters of red-pill. By the way, Jacob, feminism does not exist in Kenya. What we have is toxic lowlifes and empty headed attention seekers masquerading as feminists. The real ideals of the feminist movement are absent in the toxic version of feminism brandished online locally by bimbos; intellectually vacuous dumb blondes with the IQ of a grasshopper. Unplugged is a real red pill gem, dismantling toxic feminism and crushing it to smithereens while simultaneously making a loud wake up call to emasculated males, beta males and sub optimal males to MAN UP !. All men must read Unplugged. Its a man’s Bible.
Mbunge –
I can’t believe I am posting anonymously to avoid backlash from my female constituents, but that’s what we politicians have become… wussies! I strongly believe a real man speaks his mind, like the author of this book; political correctedness is for wussies, and there is no social space where men have been more wussified more than the political scene. I had a discussion about this book with some fellow parliamentarians and there was some agreement that the political scene is getting emasculated at a very fast pace. We politicians are simps and an insult to masculinity, simps in the sense that, in our attempts to appease our female voter base, we end up discriminating against men. At all levels we are setting up funds for women, community programs for women, bla bla bla, but doing nothing much for our male constituents. We may call it affirmative action but extreme affirmative action ends up producing reverse inequalities, and I remember telling my colleagues that in a few decades, men in Kenya will be victims of reverse inequalities produced by what we are doing to day in an attempt to appease women. Whatever men are going today is nothing compared to what I foresee them going through ten-fifteen years from now if we don’t nip the imminent institutionalized reverse discrimination of men in the bud. As we attempt to create equality and appease women, men might end up being victimized in the process. We must unplug and avoid taking our men down the drain.
Grace oloo –
I learnt a lot from this book ,at the time when my husband had just been retrenched with a one month verbal notice in a.company he had worked for,for 18years. The book prepared me on how to be strong for him and to always reflect on his days when he provides for us. I commit myself to stand with him and my mantra is that(my resources are his resources) as he would say ,mamy.my resources are your resources and our children. Thanks Alieta real life experience. God bless.your work and more wisdom in your righting.
Jimmy Parsankul –
I am the kind that watches football every weekend or weekdays when there are games. I can sit down can watch from 2pm to midnight every saturday and sunday, and after reading this book, I believe this is one behavior many men need to unplug from. Sitting idly for 5-8 hours watching other men make a living adds no value to ones life. I have to reduce my watching to one game per week and use the rest of the time I waste doing value adding stuff. I appreciate many other great insights the author has given and laud his efforts to rejuvenate men.
Meshack –
Am eagerly waiting to see which book will outcontest “Unplugged” as my book of the year. This book has come right at the time am just done with college and yet to graduate in November with a bachelors degree in education science. What awaits me from next year January is birth into the real world. Not the world I was born into 24 years ago.
It’s a miracle how I came across this book. The book has not only forecasted plainly and genuinely what lies ahead of me, but has also given me a sincere and well articulated roadmap and a script to follow. I feel like I know every nook and cranny of my tomorrow. It sembles a forthcoming exam leakage!
To say that most men finish campus and settle for marriage is not only a belief but a fact. In my case, this is not even a thing to think of. In fact, I wanna upset the apple cart and consider rescheduling my marital age to 35! That’s 11 years from now. I know it’s not gonna be a walk in the park but am determined. And my strategy here is to focus on my next moves every time.
At the moment, my first strategy is to hopefully find a school between now and November where to begin my teaching career in January.
Strategy number two entails beginning the long and sensitive journey of self establishment. Its starting point entails taking up the burden of performance in my place of work. I will look to attend all my classes, give my students assignments and mark them in time. Revise It with them. Give them cats and exams and keenly watch their progress. I teach two of the most demanding and rivalric science subjects-Mathematics and Chemistry. Am aware of the stigma and false negative beliefs among most students about this two subjects. “Oh Chemistry is horrible, oh Mathematics is pathetic,oh this oh that…” They are not. It’s only that they need to be treated differently.Maths and chemistry also have their own Lemonade that need to be made (But let me not dwelt so much on this owing to professional tactical secrecy).
Moreover I will interract with them in and out of the class in spreading this great gospel of “Unplugging.” I will seek to not only turn my learners into academic gallants but also a bunch of responsible, purpose and self-driven students, disciplined and ensure each of them learns how to apply the notion, ”my own mental point of origin” especially in stemming the canker of peer pressure. (One of the biggest challenges facing Kenyan schools).I will seek to be the exceptional employee in the book; the one who exceeds expectations, the one who is larger than the job description, the one who takes on additional responsibilities and applies himself in more ways. The man that advances. Become too big for my current circumstance according to the book.
Still on the journey of self establishment, I will seek to cultivate the culture of saving in myself. I will enrole in the likes of teacher saccos and sit with a view of establishing financial cushions on my back.
Once am financially sound, I will seek to begin investments. At this point marriage should still be far away from my head and will only crack my head with it once I have a well established investment and have gotten a house and have something a woman can come into. My masculine frame.
Strategy no.3 and the final entails getting a wifeable woman to come into my life. It might be my current girlfriend if she can wait and if she will tick the boxes. I don’t fear losing her. She is not mine. It’s only that it’s my turn to have her.
And once all this is sorted, I will continue with my life, taking up the burden of performance, setting up goals, strategize on them, Get rid of everything that does not align with them, be it friends or habits..and make sure that destroy them.
Not just for success. But,that’s the way it should.
Glory be to “Unplugged.”
Peter Onundo –
When I started reading the book, I got angry more often to the point where I had to put the book down. My fears were too much. I could not imagine that the girl I adored so deeply would just one day pick up her stuff and walk away or get banged by my next-door neighbor. Nonetheless, I read it through and picked up several lessons.
With confidence, I tried something, and it worked. I logged into my FB and sent DMs to two pretty girls, and the message was the same. It went, “Hello XXXX, I am your online friend, you look pretty, and I look forward to going on a date with you. Call/SMS/WhatsApp (I gave the number). One called, and the other sent a WhatsApp message. I went for the dates. I have another approach to women now, and men should know that ladies are not as special as we have been conditioned to believe, but they are just human beings whose biology differs from men’s.
On beliefs, look at the things we do as Christians; look at our churches today! Si God for us all?
Further, I have learned that it is not all about going after money. Today, I successfully got admitted for another ‘piece of paper,’ I started morning jogs, cutting sugars from my diet, and I am going to start just a men’s crew, where we can catch up most evenings and learn a few things from each other.
This book came at the right time. Men, let’s get UNPLUGGED!
Jomo Rusinga –
When I was reading this book, I felt a feeling you feel when you are on a treadmill or a roller-coaster.
You feel like the blood is pumping through your veins. There is excitement mixed with fear. You feel dizzy, there is a disconnect between your brain and body. That is how I felt.
How do we get the harmony?
“Unplugged” has the answer.
If I could converse with my younger self, here is what I would say: “Take these principles seriously and your life will never be the same again.”
The Principles:
1. Mental Point of Origin.
2. Guard the Gates to your Garden.
3. The Burden of Performance.
Jerim Onyango –
This book gives you a personal Saul to Paul transformational expensive. From a self destruct human being to a creator of value. From a sub optimal oaf to a full stack man.
Susan Riwo –
I read this book the whole night prior to a very serious presentation the following day, it was worth it. The Author comes across as a male chauvinist but I must admit it’s a great read for both men and women. The book is well researched, great citations, touching on modern day relationship issues. The boychild who was forgotten has this book to get his power back. It is a must read to anyone hearing a deceptive whisper, women/men can learn from true stories of their fellows who’ve made mistakes. From my point of view, it was intended for men BUT any woman who reads this comes out fully baked to handle relationships with the opposite sex. It touches on career development, mental health, relationships. I highly recommend it to Learninng Institutions, Churches, Marital counseling. The Author outdid himself, such an excellent work from a Kenyan. He brought me good memories of OYUNGA PALA’S work on Saturday Nation. To all out there, UNPLUGGED teaches us that It’s never too late to find our bearing. Kudos Jacob Aliet, you deserve a pat on your back for a job well done 👍.
Dr. Joseph Jesse Masiga –
Unlike many writers who try to massage peoples weaknesses and bad habits as they try to change them, Jacob Aliet completely shuns the politically correct approach and adopts a hard hitting style, calling a spade a bade not. He viciously attacks the demons inside you stopping you from living your full potential and the demons emasculating and effeminating the man. Jacob does not pamper you with niceties to give you a good feel as you wallow in your “suboptimalness”. He attacks bad habits and male weaknesses and crushes them into smithereens, leaving every man liberated, UNPLUGGED
Shiva re-born –
-This book has made me realize what DJ CK said was true once in an interview. Young men SHOULD not get in relationships till in their 30s when they are able to carry someone elses burdens. The burden of performance cuts across..social, career, financial,sexual. It is a heavy crown to carry.
Unfortunately, almost all men and women mess up between 19 – 29 years. our biology has no mercy and it teases both genders to procreate in the form of stupor love….Those hot flushes…sneaky testosterone,..huggy oxytocin.. enchanting dopamine..and all the combi pill of biochemistry always win 1st.Very selfish..Then reality hits you properly when you go to biashara street for baby stuff. Humans are organisms and it’s basic survival is either die or reproduce. Biology is ignorant of other factors in play- PESTEL factors…It doesn’t care much..it just wants more babies. Whether sigma,alpha,beta…short,tall.
– If there is a lesson missing in all Christians premarital classes and counseling is evolutionary psychology and intergender dynamics. The modern church set up is extremely feminine. Effeminate pastors.and bishops, their hair, their flushy suits, their make up, their worship,their screaming, their theatrics..I will call it the theater of chaos. They are messing up young women, manipulating them like puppets.
This book is a collection of what men in the manosphere in America are talking about. Andrew Tate, Kevin Samuels- the godfather,Rollo Tomassi, David Deida, Rich cooper, Jordan Peterson. They are all trying to save a generation totally messed up by the last 3 generations due to toxic feminism. If you see the mess in scandavian countries and South Korea…black Americans…it’s messed up… Strong single mothers bring up strong daughters and weak sons..and the chain continues…
Am proud of this book coming from a Kenyan author. This book is our candlelight. As a man, I have been awakened to rise and be of value. The biggest dilemma as a captain is trying to take over a ship that has already being taken over by the co- captain. Only one solution..Unplug…Unlearn ..relearn…or as in chess. … understand your chess position..if you see no possibility of winning either sacrifice the queen or abandon the game. Go learn and practice harder…come back with value.
Men.arise…you have the DNA of all your ancestors combined….
Kithinji Kirugi –
My counselling career has taken a radical shift since I read this book four months ago. I have been using the chapter titled “Mental Point of Origin” in my counseling session with amazing results. The book has empowered me to empower others to get back to basics, to default settings and restart their lives from a me-first approach.
Luvanda E.K. –
Best work of the century, with best citations and real life examples. Our fathers failed to tell us but you have gone ahead and done it. Thank you and keep liberating men, who as it stands are on their own. I have noted the following;
1. No matter what, stay focused and let your purpose guide you.
2. As a man, nobody cares.
3. Women are naturally hypergamous and it is the duty of every man to understand this.
4. Keep your frame, at all costs.
5. It’s a gender war. The women will do whatever it takes to take away your frame, and once you let that happen they despise you.
6. It’s a man’s role to lead.
7. Have options.
8. Work on yourself and don’t settle for less.
9. Real desire can never be negotiated.
10. You are the prize.
11. Alpha fucks and beta bucks.
And so on….
Keep doing this and let us make millions of men out there aware of the masculine power.
Ochanyo Onyango –
Rarely, do I read a book that applies to my current circumstances as this one. As one who is currently undergoing a divorce, never has a book been this timely to read. As I was shifting through the pages I realised the so many mistakes that I made in my current marriage and lessons that will hopefully make me a full stack man in my next relationship. I have picked the following lessons from it:
1. Women will always put themselves first, therefore it is only fair if all men become the point of origin of all their decisions.
2. Never listen to women, hear them BUT NEVER listen to them.
3. Women are dream killers. Focus on your purpose and the right woman will come.
Professor Khalil Timamy –
If you have a son joining campus this semester, get them a copy of this book. Its the best thing you can give them as they transition to the next phase of life.
Kelvin Thuo Njeri –
Hi, I have read so many books but #UNPLUGGLED, is just special to me. In fact it has empowered me immensely and has assisted me to make a decision I have procrastinated for years..sure the society lied to us. Continue with the good work you are doing, we are behind you.. CHEERS..
Babayao Generale –
Aliet metaphorically drove an excavator into the building built on the foundation of lies and fiction that formed the basis of our life while growing up and reduced it into smithereens through this blockbuster. After reading every sub-topic, one has no choice but to fold the book pages together, deeply ponder and shake his head to shudder at the level of lies we were thought as innocent kids about intergender dynamics.
It’s a piece full of facts and sad realities that makes you unsettled throughout the pages and at the same time a piece of hope and motivation. The author dedicates the final part of the book to giving tips on how men should lead a quality, fulfilling and deliberate life, making the book a complete work dedicated to a man to transform his life for the better.
There is no doubt that this will be passed on from generation to generation as the blueprint for manosphere writings. I am proud that one of our own, a Kenyan for that matter, has penned such an extraordinary work making us claim our space in the manosphere as a country.
If you are a man and you are still grappling with mediocrity, this is the right book for you. Grab it yourself and gift one to your progeny or your loved ones.
Oliver Otieno –
Nowadays we perceive issues using an UNPLUGGED lense, and the book is the first thing that came to mind when I watched the highly emasculating Airtel Money advert. That advert is an insult to men and I strongly believe the leading influencers in manosphere such as Jacob Aliet should address it, plus other commercials and media artefacts that treat men subjectively.
Chris Karega –
Our last born brother, in his late 20s, would spend 60-80k every month on alcohol, women, road trips and airbnbs outside town. He was already worried about the money and time he was squandering on these escapades and confided in me that he was making a resolution to quit this destructive lifestyle at the beginning of this year.He did quite well in January but relapsed to this addictive lifestyle around valentines and Easter. I bought my copy of Unplugged in early June and decided to share with him, hoping that it would make him stick to his resolutions, and fortunately it did .My brother is yet to make a road trip outside town in the last three months. I have also noted that he has slowly detached from his sherehe-esque friends, and everyone in the family is happy for him. The book helped him unplug from a very destructive lifestyle, and I highly recommend it to people struggling with addictive destructive behaviors and lifestyles that makes them lose focus.
O.K. Murkomen –
If authors of book of the year were to get head of state commendation, Jacob Aliet would unquestionably get it for his efforts to unplug Kenyan men from mediocrity. I don’t want to get political but FREEDOM IS HERE for Kenyan men courtesy of Unplugged.
Nehemiah Ithali –
Just read the book the third time. Everytime, I read the book I get new insights I had missed from the previous reading cycle. Hoping to read it two times more before the year ends
Shiro Kiarie –
The bile against this book in “femisphere” made me get a copy so I can also bile…but…I find there is more to thumbs up than bash. For example, the section on mental point of origin applies to anyone, men and women…and by the way, I would hate to have a man who does not live up to the ideals encapsulated in this book. I actually now have a perfect marking scheme I will use when dating.
Colllins Wohoro –
Great book! In addition, the author needs to go to all universities and colleges locally, talking to young men. The revolutionary and liberating message needs to be spread in all formats.
Maxon Adenya –
May Willis Raburu read this book
Waithera Kiago –
This book is the ultimate man maker. We want men with their frames intact not spineless “softlings”. I don’t even understand why there is so much noise about it in women’s group, but I’ve observed that the most noise is coming from women who are past their sell-by date, you see the b**ches lost touch with feminine ideals in their prime and become more like men which reduced their attractiveness to men and are now going for younger men they can control. But now comes unplugged which is liberating the younger men making them less vulnerable to feminine control, leaving the b**ches without options, no wonder the book is so unpopular among that demographic.
James Juma –
I had my bingo moment at 30 when I accidentally stumbled upon content from Kevin Samuels, Richard Cooper and Coach Red Pill. And then I read Unplugged. The Author “localized” the Masculinity content with examples I could relate with.
Every man should drill into their DNA the meaning of mental point of origin. My son will read this book when he turns 13 to avoid the lies about female nature that I experienced.
Butita –
Hii kitabu ifikie wasanii. Many of them need it! Karibu nitaje majina, but..ifikie wasanii.
Collins Kipngetich –
I would like to reach this level of writing prowess. The writer should consider giving tutorials to budding writers.
James Mosoti –
I highly recommend this book to any man who feels like giving up on life and resign to fate. It can help you start again from scratch even if you are past 40 and make it in life.
Oduor Otieno –
I recommend that every man reads this book at least five times, before they die.
UNPLUGGED is a doorway to the female psyche; exploring the finer details of intersexual relationships in terms of what makes or breaks a man’s success with women.
The author, in a candid and brutal approach, explains how men are lost in the abbyss of trying to please women, at the expense of their purpose and personal growth.
More importantly, the book offers a guideline on how to be a competent male at every aspect of your life – your hustle, career, self confidence, health and mind.
The author’s ultimate message to all men is: Change or perish!
Chris Githaiga –
I caught a student reading this book in the middle of my lesson and took it. After, reading it, I got my own copy for future reference and made sure I returned the book to the boy as they were going home for holidays last week because, he surely needs this book, now and in the future. I also recommend it to the class and asked those who can afford to go get a copy, like their classmate.
Walter Mong’are –
Unlike many books which you read once, you will find yourself reading unplugged several times. Its not a book you can easily give away. Situations will happen in life that will require you to keep referring to the text for direction and guidance, the way you refer to the Bible or other religious books.
Kaaji Leswam –
Unplugged should be a man’s bible. Reading this book has greatly changed my mindset on so many issues that most feminists would term as chauvinism. Having grown In a maasai cultural and traditional set up,being taught about strong and masculine roles and responsibilities, Unplugged has instilled the lessons learnt in me and brought up so much sense in the urge to protect masculinity and anti-feminism.
Every man who looks up to being a strong-minded masculine man should definitely have this book and at the end of the read, he will be a baptized man.
Thanks Jacob for the Man’s bible.
Robert Rono –
Learnt a lot about female nature, and I doubt I will ever have the desire to get married after what I am reading, watching and learning about modern women from diverse sources. Won’t waste time pursuing marriage. Thanks God I am getting all this knowledge in my early 20s.
Anita Nderu –
The biggest victim of a weak man is a woman. Weak men
1. beat and kill women
2. become deadbeats
3. are alcohol addicts
4. are womanizers
5. neglect their families
6. live off women
7. will con women
8. can easily rape
Women are safer in a strong masculinity context than a weak one. Great work of rejuvenating masculinity, Author.
FELIX OMARIBA –
I wish i read this earlier but Well not a bit too late.It comes in handy when you realize there is much to learn about the female nature.Its no longer as it was that women cannot be understood.One thing that stands out best is the none Misogynistic nature of the writer like any of the femispheric members would have expected.Every woman and the world deserves a man with Positive Masculinity and thats exactly the rallying call in UNPLUGGED.Unlike toxic masculinity as they call it,UNPLUGGED has the content that even helps women understand themselves.As men being our own Mental Point of Origin is the biggest asset. what would have happened if Abraham told Sarah he was going to sacrifice Isaac.huh!!At such a point,this book is a reference to get men back to their right place Such a researched content from all available resources.I even now know Cuckoo birds have something to do with child support evasion.Cuckoldery,Cuckold,cuckqueen .Man this is a writer!!! Book deserves an award .Daily Nation should give Jacob an Unplugging Column.Finally my worry of “how will i teach my son to be a man” is sorted .Life Hacks is here.Everything born male should read this book and have it for reference since tripping never announces its coming.UNPLUGGED is The Second Best a man can get ,after Gillette. Everytime is time to be UNPLUGGED.
Alai Onyango –
I’ve learnt a lot from this book and one thing I agree with the author of about is the importance of hanging around high value men. I have this belief that you would be rather be under the table of billionaires “eating their left overs” than be a the centre a table sorrounded by muguka boys worshiping you. Go get a membership at a golf club even if you don’t know how to play golf, get a chance to hang around men of value, gain ideas, get deals and opportunities. A CEO who sees you regularly where he hangs out is likely to listen to you and consider you for a deal which you walk into his office with a pitch. Always hang around high value men and avoid the company of low value nondescripts . Great book.
Mwangi –
Reading book helped me deal with unpleasant in laws. My soft nature and may be lack of strong leadership in the house, had made them encroach to uncomfortable levels, my house looked like her fathers house, with a brother and sister living with us permanently and the mother would visit and stay for months. I was colonized! I got the courage to set strong boundaries, there was some resistance initially but I slowly got the siblings out and established visiting rules. Currently, no one can visit and sleep in my house for more than two nights.
Dennis Kithinji –
Reading this book reminds me of gender training sessions I undertook as part of a political leadership program. I single-handedly tried to unravel myths in equality lessons. I had not read any book on masculinity but my biology and medical knowledge gave me the confidence to argue that there are profound differences between men and women. I wish Jacob Aliet was in the sessions, he would support me to unpack the connection between the biological differences and psychological, behavioral, and social States of men and women. Every man should read Unplugged. It will give them to confidence to express masculine energy in a society where femininity is being set as the standard for men while masculinity is indirectly set as the goal for women. Life is more easy and fun when we operate in our natural designs, that calls for ignoring social dynamics established to make us think that our biology and it’s influences are wrong.
Kuria Wanjuhi –
Jacob , is our ambassador, some of us have this knowledge but lack the gift of expressing our knowledge through writing.
Unplugged is well researched , an easy read with a meticulous flow, you need a pencil to highlight some points for future reference when you are dispensing knowledge to another brother.
This is a must have bible for my sons once they are old enough , but the teaching has already began because the biggest issue is the boys to understand themselves, in regards to their strength , weakness , environment and the ever changing nature of living beings.
Our fathers did not tell us.
Kaaji Leswam –
Unplugged should be a man’s bible. Reading this book has greatly changed my mindset on so many issues that most feminists would term as chauvinism. Having grown In a maasai cultural and traditional set up,being taught about strong and masculine roles and responsibilities, Unplugged has instilled the lessons learnt in me and brought up so much sense in the urge to protect masculinity and anti-feminism.
Every man who looks up to being a strong-minded masculine man should definitely have this book and at the end of the read, he will be a baptized man.
Thanks Jacob for the Man’s bible. UNPLUG ANY TIME.
Bernard Baraka –
I had to read this book three times to make sure the message sinks. One thing this book has taught me is that there are many things the society has normalized which are against the principles of life.
This Book has changed my view about everything, especially on mental origin. Jacob Aliet i would love to meet that guy and have an intellectual conversation. Lastly as a literature major, his usage of language and choice of words is top notch. My colleagues must read this book.
Martin Kijogi –
In every data, there is always outliers. Jacob Aliet has written a Bible for men. Let every man read this book. I have read it 2 times. I will never be the same again. I am lucky that I have all this knowledge at this young age. God bless you, Jacob. Read UNPLUGGED.
Pick your copy, read and apply your new knowledge consistently in your daily life. You will never be the same. Never.
Dr. Jerome. M. Mbithi –
I manage Alcohol Use Disorder in-patient treatment facility for male addicts and one of the interventions we use to induce behavior change is called cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT). My team is considering intergrating some of the personal improvement insights outlined in Unplugged within the CBT tool as we have deemed them effective in creating behavior change. We will also strongly recommend this book to every patient released from the facility as the insights in here will undoubtedly prevent relapse and enable them to become purposeful human beings moving forward. Thank you Jacob for this great book.
Benard Odhiambo –
All properly equipped young women are still wearing miniskirts in spite of the cold, and even greater number of full stack men agree with Jacob Aliet in his book, Unplugged. The book makes a case for dwindling masculinity and offers a remedy. Just like bitter medicine, the book is cold, hard and brutal, and does not corset or pamper us. It makes chilling but clear bullet-point distillation of facts. It is and will continue to appeal to most people who want to get ‘Unplugged’, despite the uncomfortable feelings it has no option but to arouse from time to time…
Peter Macharia –
This is my best investment this year
MESHACK SIMBA NYAUNDI. –
Much have been said and written about this master class and piece of Literature from OUR OWN Kenyan Author. We have been accustomed and acculturated to read books from the West but it seems 2022 ,our manosphere year we had to quote our own.
This is the BEST book ,worth reading by ALL MEN who need to chase their purpose.
It is NOT about the author making money,but about injecting a self awareness dose to weak, emasculated men without vision,action,mission or purpose.
Am in Qatar and bought the book before I flew out last month. We are in the men hostels and as am typing I don’t have the book,it’s a reading spree and my friends have promised me the First thing they do upon arrival is head to Nuriah Store.
Keep the stocks piled.
God bless you Jacob for the great compilation,blue pilled men have no excuses that they had no one to guide them into becoming MEN WITH PURPOSE.
Mental Point of Origin for me was full dose.
MESHACK SIMBA NYAUNDI. –
My Question ,HOW will a man survive without buying/having this book under his arms?
I bought the book,read it,my friends are reading it. The first thing coming back to Kenya they are planning is to pass through Nuriah Store.
I can quote Our Kenyan Author,you don’t know how sweet the feeling it is!
Mental point of ORIGIN? That sank in well.
The book shall be besides my BIBLE,no further borrowing. You read it at my place or go buy yours because am afraid it may be borrowed and I may never get it back.
Moses K Gitau –
Growing up there was a lot we were never taught and especially on matters to do with intersexual dynamics. Our parents would never discuss talk to us on such topics and some things we had to learn on our own and of course not all ways were good. They say if you don’t want to be hated, don’t speak the truth but Jacob has put all the truth as it is and the sooner we men learn to embrace it the better. I understand what it takes to be a MAN and am willing to pay the price. I have lessons that I will teach my children if God grants me the opportunity. And lastly, the writing skills 👌 are on another level. Had to keep my dictionary close with me the whole time.
Djausif Chali –
As a young man in my twenties, this book comes at a time the men in my generation need it, In a world defined from the female perspective, where more and more men of my generation are becoming feminine and more and more women are becoming masculine, this books sends you back to default settings and awakens the man from within, and as they say masculinity is not the problem lack of it is.Time to Unplug , every son of a woman needs this copy .Looking forward to the new improved unplugged
Dennis Okari –
Hypergamy!!!!!!!
Bonface M. –
It has been 6 weeks of unplugging: Reading, Processing and Building a habit track
This is a masterpiece. Not your usual type: Deep, mind stimulating, will often step on your toes and finally brutally liberating. For the rigid in thoughts and long-held lies, it won’t be an easy walk through the book.
This is a book I recommend to all young men. Especially if you are single. It will poise for what it means to be a man and will save you a lot of unnecessary troubles.
Just to mention a few highlights: 1. Man, no one is coming to save you! You are your own Saviour. Accept the responsibility of self-transformation. All you require is in you.
2.Man, make peace and assume the burden of responsibility. God wired you that way. You are up to task.
3. Always be your mental point of origin. Don’t be too careless to the extent of having other people as your mental point of original. It is dangerous not only for you, but for them as well.
4. As a man, do not let your present level situation prick your confidence. Rather, embrace the process and work your way up. A day at a time.
5. Men, a woman who has a genuine desire for you, will be glad to fit and submit under your frame. If you have to discuss and ask for submission, you’re already out of your frame. Abort.
6.You don’t become wealthy by being a worker, you become wealthy by what you create, build and own. Men create your own wealth.
7. Men, have a clear concept of what you want to be, and let that vision guide your behavior, and you will advance. Discover one thing you are good at or can get good at and master it! Let other HVM recognize you for that. Don’t chase petty accolades.
Being a BETA is an abuse to the true nature of being a man! BE A MAN. BE MASCULINE.
NB.
Should you be into spirituality and deeply rigid in your faith in God, you may want to be ready to have uncomfortable thoughts shared. But again, how mature are you if you are comfortable processing only what you agree with?
Far and large, this book is a guide!
Ndindi Nyoro –
Those who did geography in high school can remember a geomorphology subtopic titled river rejuvenation characterized by renewed energy of a river, increasing its erosive power. By the time you finish reading this book, a man feels like a rejuvenated river. Your mental energy is renewed, you thinking changes, your power to erode past challenges and seemingly insurmountable barriers increases markedly. This must be the greatest book written by a Kenyan in the 21st century
robert.magotsi –
UNPLUGGED-Things Our Fathers did not Tell Us- By Jacob Aliet
Review of Foreword Chapter – by Robert Moses Magotsi
The trigger of the book was an observation the author made of nice guys who deferred to their wives, were faithful in their relationships, non-disagreeable, mellow men, committed fathers, who lost their marriages, a situation that confounded him, leaving him questioning , what’s going on?, which eventually led him to the ideas, lessons, knowledge and wisdom shared in this book.
He posits that over several years the concept of gender has been advanced as being a social construct with its attendant feminist ideas of egalitarianism not just in the work place but within marriage while ignoring our evolutionary psychology and how our ancestral past still influences our behaviour as men and women.
In his journey of discovery, he observes that:
1) What his generation has learnt about relationships from popular media was primarily wrong and erroneous, their espoused ideas false and dangerous which had led to the demise of several people, mainly men through suicide.
2) Much had changed between the seventy’s, eighties, and nineties about what drives relationships between men and women and the glue that hold marriages together
3) Political ideologies has been changed, marriage has been remodelled, intergender dynamics have shifted and women’s expectations of men have changed ,yet men have fundamentally remained the same. In a nutshell society had evolved in so many ways.
4) Our fathers (those who were present and involved In their children’s lives), did not teach us some bolts and nuts of life, how to court and propose to a girl, what it means to be a man (of the house) and to run (manage) a marriage, how to maintain female attachment (it’s a lifetime of continual maintenance work due to wear and tear of body and soul)
5) While women had become, ‘empowered’, men lacked a playbook for navigating relationships with, ‘empowered’ women.
6) An increasingly femicentric world, women surpassing men in University and Tertiary education enrolment, marriage being weaponized against men, men being forced to enter pre-nuptial agreements to fireproof their lives from divorce laws and family courts, popular media pandering to women without regard to what is truthful or beneficial to society ( rogue capitalism or essence of capitalism… profits without soul)
In the light of these observations he came to a realization that all the things we had learnt from books, TV’s, Magazines and novels when we grew up were no longer applicable. The outcome of this situation is a decline in marriage rates, increased divorce rates, increased single mothers and unrealistic expectations from marriage especially from women.
Being a keen observer of human nature, he has set out this book as an effort to consolidate practical (pragmatic- that which works in action) predictable (based on natural laws of cause and effect while recognizing dynamic interconnections) lessons that can help us (our generation and those to come), particularly men navigate life and relationships in the modern world in a manner that brings satisfaction (being at peace and harmony with oneself and the world namely other people, flora , fauna, the environment) and stability (a critical ingredient for raising a competent next generation in career, life and relationships, the evolutionary explanation of what we call love). Nonetheless for those who are not able to achieve these noble objectives the author hopes that the nuggets of knowledge and wisdom will better equip them cope with the turbulence and vicissitudes of relationships.
Being a master story teller (this is the authors seventh book, with previous books being works of fiction), a critical reviewer of life, a critical enquirer of the seeming contradictions of phenomena, a reflective soul, and an analytical mind, able to deduce and extract knowledge from the mundane world we take for granted and a public critic, a widely read individual, a truly educated man, the author has produced a book that will educate you as it will entertain you. My English fails me to describe the outcome of this investigation as many books use similar hyperbole just for marketing purposes, but this books Is EPIC, TOUR DE FORCE, A seminal work that will change the way we view relationships in Kenya, Africa and hopefully the world.
Herein Lies the MANIFESTO for successful intergender relationships and a better society. All whoa re concerned with the betterment of the next generation, a better society, reduced divorce rates, increased marriage rates, better gender relationships, successful marriage outcomes, peace and harmony in marriages, reduced single parenthood, grab this book for the knowledge and wisdom it exudes.
While the failure in these areas of our generation may be excused on account of ignorance (our fathers didn’t tell us, or if they told us, it and rendered valueless by changing society or were absent), the success or failure of future relationships between the genders will not be because of lack of knowledge
The success or failure of future relationships between genders both at individual levels and societal levels will not be because of our ignorance but first because lack of effort to get the knowledge (our virtual uberfather – Jacob has taken it upon himself to provide it)and secondly because of failure of our personal and collective imagination to reflect in our contexts and apply, implement this books lessons, knowledge and wisdom.
Thus I call upon every person that hopes to get married sometime, is dating or thinking of dating, parents, community leaders, politicians, religious leaders, feminists and influencers to do themselves and society a favour please GRAB A COPY OF THIS BOOK AND IMBIBE IT, and we will be the first step on a journey to a better intergender relations society- a more understanding, less violent society.
Risper Nkatha –
UNPLUGGED is more than a book.It is a guide and a turning point to the life of a man.It explains how a man can transform his mind, thoughts and actions to a direction that leads to success.The Author is well informed and abreast with the current unfolding.The female nature is deeply captured,Hypergamy and the solipsistic nature of women is aptly covered.As a woman, reading UNPLUGGED was a Unique experience.I was pleasantly surprised .Mind blowing and great insights.The book stands out as it is skillfully written, intensely and well researched,Thought provoking and Keeps you turning those pages!
I recommend this book to men and women as it is highly insightful and necessary in today’s dating market.
Sammy Omusiani –
I wonder why some popular masculinity coach has been talking shit about this book. I had to look for it and I am not disappointed. I think the writing and ideas are beyond his scope and inferiority complex and the fear of being eclipsed is eating him up. Great book.
Owen Mwatia –
This is MEDICINE!
Mijungu –
The truths in here slap hard, sending the demons of emasculation and sub-optimalness out and setting the man on the path to greatness.
Injera –
I’ve read this book four times and each reading hits differently. The more you read it, the harder the truths hit and the deeper the insights penetrate into the psyche.
Tobias Onzere –
Masculinity coaching gets better when done by a research-oriented intellectual who gives his claims a rich evidence base and this book is the hallmark of the intellectual approach to manning up.
Silvester Muhoro –
This book is way much underpriced. The insights, wisdoms, truths, and eye opening knowledge are worth much more. I’ve paid more for masculinity conference that do not give even a 10th of whats inside here. This book is a gem
Muthike Mugo –
One of the investments that can change your life
Chris Owuor –
Men
Buy this book!
Its is a social atlas for men.
Mwakideu –
One of my best jokes by Reddykyulass cracked over 20 years ago was where KJ suggested that they put green lensed spectacles on a cow so that the gjasses can make the soil look green making it think its grass and eat it. For years, men have been eating soil thinking its grass under the influence of the comforting lies but unplug is removing the lenses of deceit and laying the truth bare, and its time for men to allow the hardcore truths to shape them.
Paul Ongiri –
The best thing any man who reads this book and understands the inevitability of hypergamy as an intrinsic female trait is strive to be the man women go to when they leave sub optimal men. Be that man they would rather share with each other and not the one they dump before they monkey branch. Work tirelessly on yourself and stay above the rest! Change and make yourself the beneficiary of hypergamy.
Doris Kerubo –
If there is one thing men need to unplug from, it is time wasters, I completely agree with the author. The biggest emasculator is time wasting. It creates purposeless men. Channel most of your time towards things that make you a full stack a man, and this applies to women too. The worst thing you can do is be a slave of time wasters.
Silvester Oluseno –
Now, there is no excuse why men should not be great. The whole formula is in this book. Once you unshackle from the mentalities, beliefs, and conditions that have always held you back guided by this book, you get into a frame of mind that makes you unstoppable
Marsden Oloo –
I rarely review books i read but I had to review this one briefly. First, it aptly captures what men should not be and how to avoid being what you should not be or how to move away from what you should not be. Then it outlines what men should strive to be and what to do to be what they should be.
John Timbiti –
This book is what i would call a timely intervention. At a time when masculinity is in the middle of a dark tunnel, it lightens up the end of the tunnel giving men an easy way out of their existential quqgmire.
Charles Kanyeki –
This is the “Nelson Mandela, Mahatma Ghandhi, Che Guevara, Thomas Sankara” of masculinity literature. Creme de la Creme. Revolutionary.
Macharia Irungu –
Jacob Aliets biggest strength in this book is that he does not massage mediocrity or peddle soft masculinity- that kind of masculinity that feminists want to see (I always say if a woman calls you a gentleman, think twice, you must have behaved in a feminist-esque masculine way). Its that false notion of masculinity that the writer rises against in the book and seeks to inculcate solid masculinity values in his audience. In short, he is telling us, don’t become a feminist idea of what a real man should be because those are the kind of men messing up our society
Muendo Muthoka –
On Saturday, I was in a gathering of men most of whom have read this book and you could feel its impact from their confessions of how it has changed their perspectives. First thing on Monday (yesterday) I got my copy. I am already through, and, surely, I am onto new beginning.
Karuti –
There are so many masculinity coaches today but none of them is as intellectual as Jacob Aliet. No one appeals to scholars and intellectuals better than Jacob. Unplugged is a book I can easily use to teach an entire sociology unit
Pithon Waithaka –
Just a suggestion, Jacob. Please build the segment on mental point of origin into a whole book. I know you can weave and extend the chapter into a stand alone masterpiece. I find it the most poignant, significant, and transformative in the whole book
Noel Sigu –
I have read this book at a time when I am experiencing disillusionment and hopelessness due to vagaries of life, but now I am feeling rejuvenated. I may not be out of the woods yet, but I have some mental clarity and an idea of the weaknesses that brought me here, and how to get the hell out of the pit.
Wanderi –
Unplugged combines sociology, psychology, ancient philosophy and literature resulting in a highly compelling, incisive, and thought provoking depiction of intergender relations and its the depth of research and evidence base that makes this book more influential than any other book locally that attempts to talk to men
Thomas Mwandawiro –
This book is so comprehensive in its scope of coverage of men issues that every man who reads it will find something that closely or directly relates to his experience. Hauwezi maliza kusoma Kitabu hiki bila kupata swala moja ambalo lakuhusu wewe kibinafsi. And this captures the depth of writers research as he prepared this great product
Abdulkadir –
This book is the print version of Men Conference. And by the way, the author should team up with like minded authors or influencers to organise a real mens conference for serious men, men who can maintain a scholarly cum philosophical conversation on matters men.
Kiprotich –
I bought this book after reading its reviews on Aliets facebook page which aroused my curiosity. What I like about it is its depth. Every topic is covered deeply. Nothing superficial. Every claim is backed up with evidence. Allusion to Greek mythology, the Bible, European literature and the use of highly convincing anecdotes makes this book stand out.
Jane Makena –
This writer comprehesively understands gender and society. Kabisaaaa
Ongaga Erick –
Unplugged.
It came in my life at a point where I was almost leaving everything to fate. I had just lost my young family, I felt the worst had come to my life and nothing made sense anymore.
I first learned about the manosphere from Silas Nyanchwari. I read some of his memos and one day he had tagged you, Jacob Aliet, in his writings. The memos started firing my spirits up. On further reading and following your Facebook page, my hunger for understanding the female nature and intergender dynamics was fully aroused. Your work and ruthless approach towards declining musculinity and increasing feministic approach to life triggered me into learning more. Every time I read unplugged, I feel like killing the beta me a thousand more times. A rush of emotions and and adrenaline fills my veins and I can clearly see where I dropped the ball.
I had to reassess my life and get everything back on track, find a purpose, fix my health, adopt new was of spending time and my resources. When I look back the steps I am making since the unplugging began, I find no correct adjectives to describe how grateful I am for this masterpiece.
This will forever serve as my best reference and life coach.
Men Must unplug!
Collins Warutumo –
I love the nuggets wisdom spilled from the book -eg value is caused by demand et al. A great read for men in the modern society with detailed references portraying excellent linguistic mastery.
Collins Warutumo –
the book has been written with excellent linguistic mastery capturing references. Wisdom nuggets are portrayed in most parts of the book e.g value is caused by demand, great read for men living in a modern society
D.J. Smith –
The best thing that ever happened to me this year is understanding hypergamy via this book. I shall never struggle with women again.
Shadrack Muema Muia –
I finally get a reason to quit alcohol
Newton Mihiu –
I got my copy of unplugged as a gift from my 73 year old dad and a week later i was not in any doubt that this is the best thing Ive ever received from him. More valuable than the land I inherited.
Arthur Kisilu –
I strongly believe that with the right information such as that in this book Unplugged, 70 percent of betas can be alphas. Ignorance is the biggest betadizing agent and that is why this book must reach as many men as possible.
Alex Mwachofi –
Phew! I have been living a lie. What the hell, man! I was almost trembling while reading some chapters as the lies got crushed into smithereens and the truth took over
Moffat Serem –
Hapa kuna KIUKWELI !!
Wilson Ouma –
Is there a man who hasn’t read unplugged? You should be gripped by the fear of missing out and get your copy. This is not something to miss out
Kamau wa Tiles –
Nikikumbuka vile nilipata stress juu ya kuachwa na a single mother I was dating. Mimi nikapata stress juu ya kuachwa na baby mamma ya mtu, mimi Kamau? Shit I wouldn’t do post unplugged! Nimefunguka machooo! Naonaaaa!
Abed Matundura –
Maaaan, this is the real shyet! Shyet maaan! I love this. I mean, by the time I was doing the last page, I could feel my energy levels spike up the way insulin spikes in the blood after a spoonful of glucose after running an energy-draining, fatiguing race. This book makes you feel like a lion ready to conquer every emasculator lying on your path. Shyet maaan, men dont need so many motivational speeches on how to succeed and conquer their demond just show them how to fix their frame and everything will fall into place. Just show them how to be a full stack man just show them to be creators of value, just teach them against pedestalizing women, the way this book has done. ITS THA REAL SHYEET!
Rachel Kimojino –
I have always said, the difference between feminist influencers and their masculinity counterparts is how they package their content. Look at this book! The author has spent time studying the society from an intergender relations perspective, collecting vidence from a wide range reliable sources, synthesizing them into a compelling narrative accentuated with allusion to religion, Greek and Roman mythologu, modern and ancient literature. He almost quoted Homer! Add this to an excellent mastery of English language and top of the range writing skills, and you get a product that gives me an orgarsmic read, even though I do not agree with some of the authors positions on the issue. Compare this book with the kind of content feminists spew online. Nothing but using regurgitated vocabulary to peddle emotional baits, without any intellectual foundation, WTF. This book will remain relevant 50+ years from now due to its rich evidence base, the quality of research and the depth of the articulation of issues. I challenge feminists to come up with something at least half of this because no feminist literature in Kenya can measure up to a quarter of what we have here.
Maina Kinyua –
I dont gamble but I got some chronic gamblers in my circle and the biggest pain for a gambler, and most of them can attest to this being felled by the team with the lowest odds. I hear them yell ” Hausikii nimeangushwa na team iko na odd ya 1.15? Mbona niliweka hio team na hata hakuna kitu kubwa ilikuwa inaongeza kwa betslip”. However, when they are felled by a team with big odds, they actually chest thump. “Ile odd ya 2.55 imenitoa, but at least hapo nilikuwa nimecheza kama mwanaume. You see, as the the author of UNPLUGGED posits, we have two sets of men. Some are chasing big stuff others are chasing mediocrity. I would rather fail while chasing big stuff than fail when chasing mediocrity, like that gambler felled by an odd that wouldn’t add any value to his betslip. Don’t fail when chasing stuff that does not even add value to your life. Imagine a masters degree holder being given character development by a high school dropout. Hio ni kama kuangushwa na team iko na odd ya 1.05 banaa. What value would a high school dropout add to a masters degree holder even if he managed to keep her?? Its even more painful when you fail to keep her because thats failing when chasing mediocrity. You got no frame, dude! Please let us fail when chasing women who would add value to our lives you can thump your chest and say, “at least I was chasing substance”. You have to be a f**king retard (f**ktard) to be given character development by a high school dropout. Get some frame and date substance. Na gamblers muachane na odds za 1.2. Get some frame too and chase biggers stuff ( though i dont encourage gambling. Its for effing losers, and directionless lowlifes! Come beat me!
Kalya Kipchumba –
“Things Our Fathers Did Not Tell Us” is an apt description of this book. As we’ve become more urbanized, fathers spend more time at work and in bars than mentoring their children, especially sons.
Aliet’s book is mistakenly shrunk to being a book about women…but it is about Men.
Men finding their way in a world that despises masculinity…
Men unashamedly taking on the burden of performance…
Men aware of their place and responsibility in society…
Men determined not to settle for mediocrity, including draining and mediocre relationships…
Stephen Kiama –
What makes even makes me feel ashamed is that I borrowed unplugged from a 20 year old young man to read. I am 38 and I am like how did a 20 year old got this kind of book before me. Despite having read, I will still buy a copy for future reference as this is not the kind of book you read once
Joseph Owino –
This is DEEP! From 2018 when Pushback was in formative stages…. nothing beats UNPLUGGED…For scholars there’s a need for a unit in both tertiary and university to incorporate unplugged as a Unit….this book is real deal and for the avid readers it’s a limitless ORE
Deng Xiaoping Omondi –
This book is a GEM! Is the author from GEM ?..because this social commentary is a literary GEMstone!
Kennedy –
Well-researched and articulated wisdom for men. This is a must-have for men before marriage and relationships with ladies.
The lessons are delivered in a precise and raw manner, avoiding any b.s
Sarah Maritim –
I am a bit ambivalent about this book. While I don’t like its subjective treatment of women, its efforts to transform our husbands and sons cannot go unnoticed. Living with a sub optimal man is the worst thing that can happen to a woman, worse than the partriachy that feminists fight. I am glad someone is fighting the biggest burden to us women which is declined masculinity. Continue waking up those sleeping lions. There is no space for a low value man in this world.
Bishop Gatheca –
Today I am delivering a sermon using excerpts from this book.
geomutuku –
Have read this book twice. And boqy,it’s been absolutely an eye opening experience!I genuinely thought I knew and really understood women…Well,seems have taken too many facts about them for granted.Thank you Aliet,you’ve opened my eyes to a few important things jn terms of take on men women engagements.its been worth every second.
Kimani Mworia –
I first heard about this book when it was quoted several times during a talk show at a vernacular TV station and I got curious because the panelists were addressing a problem I was facing. I got a copy and three weeks later, it has helped me make three critical life decisions. I discovered the book when I needed it most.
Anonymous –
I applaud the author for trying and succeeding to SOBERLY address a complex and crucial matter. Intersexual dynamics is an overwhelming topic, especially for anyone considering a long-term relationship.
I am a divorced female, and I believe I arrived here because of being “modernized.” Growing up, I didn’t have role models on whom to base an ideal marriage on. All I had known, up until the duration of my marriage was from secular books, the media, social media, and friends.
When I got married, my partner and I had very involving careers. But I am the one who proposed a 50/50 cost sharing for our expenses. In my ‘logical’ thinking, I expected him to equally participate (50%) towards performing domestic chores, and to allow me a 50% say in decision making. This led to lots of problems and that marriage flopped.
My partner was/is a good man. It’s the 50/50 strategy that didn’t work.
Back then, I had read volumes on female empowerment and feminism. I learned from books like; The Female Mystic, The Second Sex, Forget Having it all, Historical Dictionary of Feminist Dictionary, and so on. Any time during a disagreement with my partner, if he mentioned disrespect or lack of submission from my end, I would hear none of it. I especially hated the word submission.
I didn’t get into marriage wanting to break it up sometimes later. I wanted a forever.
The problem I acknowledge now is that I and our society have not been listening to men. And also, maybe, men have not been audible enough. But – MEN NEED TO BE HEARD. And most importantly, they need to step up and take the leadership mantle. Complaining about the more significant number of enrolments of women in higher education institutions in comparison to men is not a solution. Instead, men should enroll in double/ triple that number. And for every effort that has been made to empower women, triple that for men. The future has no room for any gender to slack.
On writing, some readers have compared Jacob to Paul Coelho. Which Coelho have you been reading? Do you compare Eleven Minutes, The Alchemist, and The Pilgrimage to Unplugged? Come on, staaaap!!
Jacob did a great job in compiling the many topics around Manosphere and feminism. I have read some of Rollo Tomassi’s writings and watched his content on YT. I have also watched a lot of Kevin Samuels, Tate, Peterson, and others on YT. And I had the feeling that Unplugged is just a summary of what these other guys have been saying. However, and thankfully, Jacob made the message much easier to assimilate. I was finally able to comprehend what toxic, vengeful, and unbalanced men like Tate and Amerix have been trying to say.
In my opinion, Jacob is far from being in the league of Paul Coelho. My book, which I believe is the latest revision still has grammatical errors, and in some instances, the author loses coherence, and in jest, dilutes his narrative by including irrelevancies. He is not yet an Alpha in writing, and insinuating so is misleading and might tempt him to relax in complacency.
Take away points.
1. Men: Embracing the burden of performance should be formulated into a law – All our future and sanity depend on it.
2. Women: Don’t fight for masculine positions. And only agree to be in sexual relationships with men that you can submit to. To men that are in their element. Anything else will lead to frustrations for both of you.
3. I recommend this book to both men and women who would like to understand themselves and their partners better.
Conclusion: In my opinion, feministic and the manosphere agendas both make solid arguments. But the manosphere side provides a healthy and agreeable solution for both genders.
If anyone trusts a word in the Bible, let them also trust the message in 1 Timothy 2:3. Earlier, I would have thrown a fit if anyone had quoted this to me. But I am learning.
As men are ordained leaders, they should also lead in making our societies’ governing laws known. Pointing fingers at feminism and the rise of the modern woman is a feigned and weak retaliation. Both of these arose because someone had to step up. The seat of power cannot remain vacant. Nature abhors a vacuum.
Shem Mositet –
This book makes you realize what you have always considered normal is so damn abnormal. So much is wrong with how I live my life and the beliefs I hold and it took this book to expose my ignorance and low value inclinations .
Moses Tyson kiarie –
Being brought up by a single mom, I hard to build my frame as a man which start as a rebellious kid at the age of 14,
One of the toughest path for our generation is understanding the inter sexual dynamics and how to go about it, The game is rigged and venting about it makes the situation worse,
The journey for developing a masculine frame comes at a cost and it’s unendless path,
Unplugged is a well thought book that argue based on statistics, society examples and compilation of other great minds like, kevin samuel and Rollo Tomassi,
#CONTUNUE MAKING MEN💪🏿
Ronald –
I respect surgeons in there feild,when it comes to literature ,Mr jacob has done wonders here,it came at a time i had just brokenup with an alpha woman ,i can relate ,getting a woman who is at the peak and ready to settle and me in my first year of work was the worse idea,she keeps her money knowing u will never develop as she develops ,i had to find meaning ,why is this,this book gave me meaning,i have decided to watch more you tube videos of kevin RIP,i have a become a better men,thank you jacob
Chris Miyogo –
Arguably, this book has made me realise I am an IDIOT and I have a lot do to work myself out of the pit. At least I am aware of who I am, who I should be and what to to to be what I should be and thats the important thing
Pius Ngare –
Unplugged is the ultimate eye opener
LETOO –
There is too much we need to unplug from that cannot be covered in one book. I feel Unplugged-things our fatheea did not teach us, needs a sequel, stuff like Unplugged, sh*t modernity has fed us, and even a third sequel. Is it possible, Jacob?
Muthoni Kagika –
This the perfect Christmas gift for my two younger brothers in First and Fourth year of campus. On my way to Nuriah for two more copies. Each must get a new one
Lennox Kimutai –
Unplugged is high voltage red pill. It sends shock waves that wash away the blue pill inside men and its residues, sending them to default masculinity settings.
Frank Njuguna –
Unplugged is undoubtedly the Kenyan book of the year. No content has inpacted men countrywide in 2022 more than this masterpiece
Phillip Munyao –
After reading this book, now I can make better sense of the adage, ” the truth shall set you free”
Wakuraya –
How literate is Samido? Can he understand the English in Unplugged? I I want to buy him a copy because he needs to read it ASAP!
David Kabiru –
I hate reading but my boss made it mandatory for us to read this book during our induction and even asked follow up questions to check whether weve read. By the time I was doing the last page, I had done a 360 degree turn around in terms of attitude, choices, and priorities.
Mark Tomno –
Amerix gave us primary school red pill then Kibe took over and gave us high school red pill. In Unplugged, Aliet takes red pill to the University.
Bristol Kinyua –
I think we should have a conversation on the necessity of marriage. Is it even necessary?
Derrick Oyondi –
Freedom is here!
Winnie Amateshe –
Before I bought this book, I had the impression that its a misogynist piece of shit, that promotes violence against women and femicide, as claimed by feminists on various social forums. As I was moving from one page to the other, I was looking for evidence supporting those claims and to my disappointment, there was nothing close to what was peddled. Imagine buying a book and not get what you are looking for! Feminists are the real pieces of shit! Anyway, I don’t regret buying the book as it has become a crucial resource for my husband
Lenny Kalweo –
Who called it unplugged instead of The Man Maker?
Theophillo Mwai –
When is Unplugged season 2 coming out? Season one was off the hook. This conversion needs to continue in another book. Keep it up Jacob.
Jesse Mulwa –
Whoever recommended to me this book must have been sent by God to turn around my life
Cephas Wasilwa –
This author should do a campus tour of Unplugged and talk to fellow young men. He will definitely save many souls wallowing in “effeminacy” and emasculating status quo. The few people have introduced this book to have already recorded remarkable changes and I believe there are so many lost lions that need to be restored to the pride.
Paul Kimani –
Finally got my copy Yesterday. Read the whole book in less than 24 hours, and it exceeded my expectations, BY FAR !
Rodney Misikhu –
May God bless the hands and the works of this author. The extent of its impact on my life is incomparable
Zablon Macharia –
There is no doubt I am a sub optimal low value man, although I was not aware until I read unplugged. Awareness is the first step towards recovery. Using insights from unplugged as the blueprint, I will work on myself till I reach the full stack man status.
Ciru Muriuki –
Alah! Kumbe the book is not as bad as girls been painting it?
Victor Seii –
After unplugged, I had to go looking for more books by this author. The will be part if my reading list for the next two weeks
Dr. Birech Boiyon –
This author is an A- star student of human nature. He aptly and expertly captures the modern sociological complexities, their roots and underlying issues, makes an accurate diagnostic assessment of the diseases eating away masculinity, and recommends an evidenced based intervention complete with a treatment plan. Impressive
Akinyi jaber –
When I bought this for my man, I had no idea I’d be the one unplugging. About the female nature, well researched points which, to a great extent, I’ve discovered to be true, through introspection. Jacob is solid and his desire to see a return to true masculinity is evident. Deep down no woman will ever be comfortable with namby-pamby manhood. The thought of a society with strong, confident, driven and ambitious, disciplined men feels elysian. Give us something worth submitting to.
Let your sons and daughters unplug.
Jackson Kaara –
Thank you for this book Jaco! Are you even aware of the extent to which this book is impacting mens lives?
Benji –
A major issue that needs to be specifically and deeply addressed in Kenyan masculinity literature is gossip. As a man, it becomes worrying when men almost outshine women are gossip. Gossip among women is okay its part of female nature but it gets worrisome when men excel better than women in what is inherently feminine. There is so much gossip among Kenyan men, I have had to leave some of these boys clubs whatsapp groups or men only groups coz of incessant gossip. Imekuwaje wanaume wengine wako na umama kuliko wamama. We need to really address gossip among men because its utterly nauseating. Is it possible for me to unplug from gossip?
Joyce Kendi –
I will ignore the harsh things the author has said about women and focus on the fundamental message. I am happy this book is teaching men to man the effin’ hell up in a wide range of areas, but mainly provision. In a house where the couple split bills 50-50, that house has two men. In a house where the female spouse does more than 50 percent provision, she is basically the man, because she is playing the mans role better than the male. In a house where couples split household chores 50-50, that house has two women. If male does more household chores than the female just because the female is providing more, the male is basically the woman of the house. I don’t like him, but Amerix once said “Men, If she is earning 400k as a neurosurgeon, earn 500k as a mason” in one of his few sensible tweets. Men need to realize that when the woman senses a decline in masculinity in her man,she starts feeling as if she is living with a fellow woman. Unless she is lesbian, a woman cannot be sexually or romantically be attracted to a fellow woman and soon she will be looking for a MAN. Therefore, men must always be on their toes.
Daisy Chelagat –
But why would feminists lie about this book? Mlinifanya nikimbie kununua kitabu nisome ndio nichape review ya makasiriko only to find a text dealing with very important issues. Do women know that low masculine men are more dangerous to women than high masculine one. Among low masculine men you will find gigolos, rapists, stalkers, abusers, dunkards, conmen and drug addict. No feminist worth her salt would be uncomfortable with literature that rises against declined masculinity. Unless we ni feminist Imbo. Mbwakni!
Beatrice Wangui –
We were given a link to do negative reviews here , when I came to write mine, I found about 340 reviews. I read each one of them, and the first thing I did the following morning is to get this hook as the reviews aroused my curiosity. Its not a bad book,I mean low masculinity is the genesis of social instability so this book is so on point! Its a 5 star rating from me.
Billy Nzioka –
Any man who hasnt unplugged should be ready for serious character development. Men must unplug from the lies and rhetoric peddled by the femicentric system. We must get back to default masculinity settings, swallow the f****** red pill and show the system the damn finger! This book needs to go viral and reach every man.
Anne Anyango –
When Deux Vultures released Kinyaunyau about 18 years ago, Wahu replied with Kibauhau, or something like that. Imagine if Mejja sang a song today about Golddiggers then Femmi One, instead of responding with a song, incites her female fans to leave a negative comment on Mejjas song on you tube. What kind of artistic shitcockery would that be. Its the case with feminist influencers. If you feel unplugged is misogynistic, write a book responding to the issues it raises, or a feminist version of unplugged. Wahu taught you how to, 18 years ago. Dont go peddling links to an online store and asking your minions to do negative reviews, or are all of you too intellectually vacuous to issue a literary response? Write book in response or STFU, to hell with your empty headed shitcockery. I’ve not even read the book, but earlier reviews especially by women tell a different story from the one being peddled around. Getting my copy as soon as possible
Raymond Ofula –
Exactly!
Zipporah Nyarangi –
Eish, after almost 400 5 star ratings, we are now supposed to come here and do one star ratings? Even a fool would easily tell the sudden influx of low ratings has been maliciously planned. About 400 people cant be wrong about a book theyve read so I flow with the majority and do a 5 star even before I read. Can feminists get a serious agenda btw. Inciting women against masculinity books wont solve the many pertinent issues women are facing today. Go after rapists, deadbeats, and all sorts of decrepits harming womens welfare. I think we are getting feminism and its ideals all wrong. Feminism has never been about bringing down men and their works. No! NEVER!
Jack Rono –
This is the medicine I needed. Nothing more nothing less!
Ian Kagwa –
The good thing about Jacob is that he does not massage the fragile egos of weak men. He hits then hard, flattens, then recreates the man. Its like how the builder brings down and old crack-filled building before building a new state of the art complex.
David Thuranira –
Taking two copies of Unplugged to the village this Christmas. I will conduct a public reading of some parts of the book on 26th and 27th during some sporting activities I have organised. We will unplug as we play and socialize.
Kassam Njogu –
I decided to base my 2023 new year resolutions on the lessons contained in Unplugged, and in preparation for my new world order, I am already two weeks alcohol and gambling free. By the time new year hits, I will be three weeks free of some of the habits Ive resolved to drop in the new year
Anonymous –
Marital challenges have driven me to near depression, at times harbouring feelings of harming myself on somebody. A few weeks ago, after opening up to my pastor about what I was facing, he gave me a copy of unplugged and told me to read before we can have a man to man talk. I have just finished reading the book and I already have sharp mental clarity that will enable deal with the challenges constructively.
Robinson Githaka –
I got my copy of unplugged in June and it has helped me live a more focused and purposeful life in the second half of the year. Most importantly, I was able to eliminate timewasters and distractions. Secondly, I resolved to create value on a daily basis, either learning a useful skill, keeping fit, creating content, gardening, etc, there must be some value created on at least one aspect of life daily for the last about 173 days. This book definitely opened my eyes and mind.
Mirriam Muthoni –
Ignore what the author says about women. The target audience is men, and it does not mislead them, as some women are claiming out here. Get your husband or boyfriend this book if you are woman of substance, or continue bashing it if you fancy being around weak men whose weaknesses you can exploit, but soon, these weaknesses will cost you dearly as a woman. Get your man this book or let him know of its existence.
Margo –
Congratulations🎊🎉 Jacob you nailed it!!
This is a book that you can’t read all at once and do with it. It’s a copy that you have to refer from time to time. So would urge one to get their own copy instead of borrowing.
I highly recommend all to read especially to the boy child,it’s an eye opener.
Will give my full review once I finish reading all pages…..so far so good.
Kudos Jacob.
Musangi –
Wait, 393 reviews in just 6 months? Thats totally put of this world! Kwani how popular is this book? Some of us are struggling to sell 200 copies in a year, this one has 393 reviews, and that might be a very small fraction of the readers. I must get it ASAP! The author must go ahead and teach others how to market book. I think he is more of a talented marketer
Kawira Baraka –
What shall I say then, dear people after reading this excellently written masterpiece?
If you have read the book, you can see the nuances of what is in it in different areas; ladies who have dated alpha males now looking for beta males to settle down with 🙂.
And oh, the happiness euphoria has been properly dealt with. My pick, would be that ladies get to know exactly who they are in a marriage and give a deaf ear to all marriage naysayers. There’s nothing like forever happy, not just in a marriage – people don’t leave their parents or siblings because they are unhappy, neither do they leave their jobs because of a moment of unhappiness.
My son and daughter will one day benefit from my reading of this book. I can see clearly what I should unlearn from what has been said before and on to being who I should be.
Thank you Jacob Aliet
Miriti –
Maze nilisoma unplugged nikasare plans za kujiua. Mpaka nikajichukia why I was harboring such thoughts in the first place, when there is a way out of every deep shyet for every man, as per the author. I now more than ready to live and work my way out of the deep pit
Cyrus Barasa –
Kumbe hii kitu inaitwa hypergamy? Nilikuliwa bibi na politician, na mimi nikafukuza. Wacha wakahypergamiane na huko mbaliiii.
Chomba Gatimu –
Today I am attending the wedding of one of my bosses and my gift for the groom is Unplugged by Jacob Aliet. The best time to save a marriage is on its first day. Mapema ndio best, ama?
Rosemary W.K. –
As a woman entering my sixties in a few days, I highly recommend this book, and I wish as many men as possible could read it. I am a mother to a 34 year old son, I refuse to call him a man because it would be an insult to the thousands of people who have manned up, taken the burden of performance and made a significant difference in this world. I wonder whether this book will redeem whats remaining of him but anyway, I wish it was written 10 years ago. Additionally, most of my workers are male, and one of the most disturbing issues that arrive at my office are rooted in men failing to live up to the traditional ideals of a man. Workplaces will benefit immensly from this book if men read this book and go back to the basics of a man. The society will benefit from this book when men read it and match up to its ideals because the current social disorder we are witnessing has been caused by men losing touch with traditional masculinity ideals. Women are the biggest victim of the lost man, and the author has done an extremely great job trying to find them man and placing him back to where he belongs
Sainep ole Saruni –
The economy would grow by double digits if Kenyan men Unplugged from everything that robs a man of his value. Unplugging can quadrupple our productivity result in creation of 20 times more value. Economists should actually explore the impact of declined masculinity on economic development and how interventions that create high value, full stack men impact the GDP.
Kodo –
When my Kao male friends learnt I was dating a girl from a certain part of Machakos near Nairobi, ALL of them discouraged me from going ahead to marry a girl from that place, telling me that women from that place have a PhD in hypergamy and the chance my marriage breaking up after a few years are more than 65 percent. I though they were being jealous coz I had bagged a girl from their community. Six years down the line exactly what I was warned about happened. My friends had tried to unplug me but I didnt listen. Don’t be like me! Listen to what Jacob is saying in this book, and act accordingly.
Eric Kasau –
We need a whole separate book on hypergamy. Its a burning issue
Ndong’ –
This book should reach an Argentinian footballer called Mauro Icardi, currently employed by PSG. Icardi needs unplugged more than he needs his PSG job.
Emily Cheserem –
I can simplify this book into a few words. Men need to be their own best friends not their biggest enemies. Empower yourself instead of self-sabotaging.
Allan Letimalo –
I am a saved Christian, yes, but I perceive Unplugged as another level of salvation. What I felt after accepting Christ as my personal savior is similar to what I felt after reading unplugged.
Lanisi –
I think my wife hid or destroyed my copy of unplugged before I finished reading, as I cannot find it. Getting a new one first thing on 3rd January. I already give it a 5 star rating based on the about 72 pages I had read.
Cedric Wasilwa –
From my understanding of Unplugged, I conclude that, Hypergamy has only one cure. Be the man a woman can leave her husband for.
How: get to your mental point of origin, take up the burden of performance and be a full stack man
Anonymous –
So are these issues, hypergamy, briffaults law, etc only applicable to Kenyan women ama hata nikitoa bibi TZ i should expect them?
Muringi Said –
I bet this was the best book I’ve ever purchased…I wish many men would read it and see how eye opening it is … this is a master piece 😊😊I bought this book for my hubby and I see great change….the alpha in him has awaken..I’m not yet done reading it but it’s worth every minute…we are unplugged.😊😊😊😊😊
Nyambura Mwaniki –
Got a copy for my son to read as he waits for his KCSE results. I had read a friends copy in the middle of last year and felt my son would benefit from this book as he leaves home for tertiary education later in the year
Boris Khisa –
Of all the people that have read unplugged I have talked to, there is something in the book that hit so hard because it attacked the core of their weakness. Personally, I got uncomfortable at least three times, as the author gouged out the comforting lies upon which my weaknesses thrive. Thus the subtitle “from comforting to hars cold truths” make so much sense.
Charles Waiganjo –
Is there a man who has not been a victim of hypergamy? Is there someone who has not been left by a social climber? Is there? Hypergamy is a pandemic. I experienced hypergamy (as I understand it now thanks to unplugged) for the first time in class 8. I was left for the prefect.
Rachel T.K –
As a scholar whose PhD thesis topic revolved around feminism and intersexual dynamics, the agenda of the modern feminism theory is not to disempower the man but to bring the woman near to, or to the level of the man. Our intention is not to knock down the man to take up the woman as the social media brand of feminism peddled by half-witted rascals posits. Feminism makes no sense when the man is down. As much as I do not agree with the labelling of women in this book, I appreciate the fact that the author is reawakening the men. There is nothing wrong with a man teaching men how to reinvent themselves and protecting themselves from the dangerous breed of wanting to bring them down, whom real feminism does not recognise. As we work to uplift girls and women, we also welcome efforts to reawaken the man and lift them up, like the author of this book is doing. Therefore, any attempts by social media dumbasses masquerading as feminists to bring down this book do not represent the ideals of the feminist movement
Monica Wambui –
I am a single mother of two sons aged 27 and 24. From the onset, I decided I am going to bring up men not “females” with an elastic protrusion between their legs. I made it clear to my sons, right from an early age that they cannot wear earings or keep fancy hairstyles. I had to closely monitor their dressing and mannerism in their teenage to ensure no deviance from the agenda I had set. I also paired them with high quality masculine figures for mentorship and I am very proud of the outcomes decade later. My boys are more masculine than some who have been brought up in households with fathers. Therefore, single mothers, though in rare cases like mine can also bring up masculine men if they want to. My next intervention is to hand each of them a copy of unplugged to usher them into the most important phase of being a man. If you are a single mother of boys in their teenage, use this resource to create men
Brenda Kawira –
There is nothing as sexy and appealling as full stack man who
1. Has a purpose
2. Creates value
3. Takes up the burden of performance
4. Protects and provide
And there is no bigger eyesore than a man who
1. Has no purpose
2. Does not engage in value creation (eg gamblers)
3. Does not rise up to occasion in terms of taking the burden of performance
The latter is what people misrepresenting feminism on social media want to see, that is why the content of this book is eating them up to a point of sending links allover and pressurising women to downrate the book. And let me make it clear that feminism has nothing to do with making men the weaker sex, it has nothing to do with blocking men from constructive information so that the can become clueless zombies and use their ignorance to crush them. When the national government created the equalization fund, it wanted to bring the marginalised counties to the same level with other advanced counties. It was not about crushing Kiambu to develop Marsabit. It was not about locking Kericho from opportunities and information to bring it down to the level of Turkana to achieve equality. Similarly, feminism no such inane business. And I would advice men to research about feminism and what it stands for and stop associating the socialite brand of feminism fighting this book with the larger intellectual feminism movement.
Becky –
When I come here to downrate a book I have not read as advised and find 414 , 5 star reviews I am like wait, how would my drop of negativity affect this whole sea of positivity. No wonder no one from the group has done a one star review despite repeated calls to do so.
A Certain Blogger –
Georgina Njenga leaks her nudes on the internet but who is trending on top twitter today? Her husband, Baha of Machachari. Things unplugged has been warning us about are already biting men. Marrying or dating low value women, the kind that set thirst traps on social media is a recipe for disaster. Such lowlifes will drag your name and @ss down the drain.
Valerie Sanaipei –
Pseudo-intellectuals with the IQ of a toad think writing high school level composition about men on the interwebs makes them femininsts, and this is how feminism is being misrepresented on social media. It is sad to note that the best these street level charlatans can do is to wage a hate campaign against a book they consider misogynistic instead of issuing an intellectual rejoinder.Secondly, how does sabotaging mens efforts to improve themselves improve womenfolk? Let this book be. There are parts of the book I find disgusting as a woman but there are sections I am actually going to use to improve my life. Case in point, the chapter on mental point of origin. That content is actually more relevant to women than men, but social media chokoraas that have not read the book already have an opinion. How asinine!
Dennis Bundi –
Not even 4 years of university education has done what this book has done for me. Completely altered my mindset and installed a new mental software. Unplugged is the most lifechanging resource I have encountered in my 26 years of existence.
Dr. Mwaniki –
I joined Kiganjo Police Training College during Kibakis first term and served as a police officer before rising through the ranks, as I advanced my education, today I am a criminology lecturer at a local university, despite having scored a C plain in KCSE, so I agree with the author that no man should stagnate. Men must be always on an upward trajectory.
Now, I will review Unplugged using a criminology conceptual framework. Its apparent that men make the largest proportion of criminals in prison. In Kenya, more than half of inmates have been involved in different forms of theft or robbery. I have talked to inmates when conducting my doctorate research and you will find the motives for their crimes are some of the issues identified in unplugged. Most of them spend their proceeds of crime engaging in hedonistic pleasures; mainly alcohol and women. I have talked to some of these boys in criminal groups such as gazza, to find the motives behind their criminal behavior especially violent robbery, and you find the pressure to maintain a certain lifestyle to women in their life as one of the drives. The desire to be acceptable to a certain class of women motivates their criminal behavior. Even most of these people in wash wash syndicates spend a significant amount of their loot on women. Now here comes unplugged, teaching men to focus on themselves and stop pedestalizing women, teaching them that there is more to life than pursuing women and spending your resources simping and buying love from women, teaching men how to create value (crime creates no value). Don’t you think the gospel in unplugged can be used to proactively deal with the surging crime rates? When men feel less pressure to please women with resources they don’t have, when men move away from hedonistic pursuits to value creation, when men focus on creating value, instead of destroying the values others have created, definitely, we will gradually reduce the motivation to commit crime.
Second, the Broken Window theory of criminology states that crime breeds more crime. It easier to break a broken window further than break an unbroken one. The current crime motives if not addressed will only lead to more crimes. Boys in their early teenage will learn that you can steal to buy love from a girl, but when we gradually reduce hedonostic motivations to crime (fixing the broken window), the young lads will find no broken window to break further. If the young lads grow in an environment of highly masculine men of purpose, they will automatically become like them. Unplugging men is a major solution to crime and social disorder.
Jairus Radido –
I used to be that kind of guy who would spend loads of money on my girl to earn her love, then I read unplugged, and I have been gradually diverting the money I used to spend on her to my business, with very impressive outcomes. On the other hand, my girl thinks I am cheating now that I no longer buy her expensive gifts or take her to exotic places for vacations (guys, you will be suspected when you stop simping and put yourself first). I told her I am focusing on building my business and we can no longer spend money carelessly, and she now feels that she is no longer my first priority. I categorically told her, yes, you are not my biggest priority. My business is, If you left me for another man, I would still have my business intact, and the value it creates will attract your replacement and if my business failed, you would leave me for another man, and I would have no value to attract a replacement. Sijui kama nitaachwa ama atakaa, but hata sijali. I am unplugged.
John Imbali –
I had to read unplugged three times before doing this review, and what I have realised is that there have been deliberate, systematic near-institutionalized efforts to mentally weaken the man and deflate his natural beast mode. The media, the church, the education system, entertainment etc, have been carefully positioned to weaken masculinity, distract men, entrap them, and reduce them into zombies. Men have to be aware of the so many distractiond, roadblocks and traps along their path disguised as entertainment, news, information, scriptures, and one must be extra cautious lest they become a victim of the new femicentric world order being slowly crafted, and this is why unplugged makes so mich sense. Only men who unplug from these traps and distractions will survive in these challenging times
P.W.Karanja –
I quit my job as a bank teller in 2013 to focus on a business I had started two years earlier and was doing well. Towards the end of 2014, I took a sacco loan to build bigger and better premises for the business and move it away from the congested space. Less than a year into the new premises in 2016, I became a victim of an arson attack. Suspected business rivarly. Everything razed to the ground. I had no insurance yet. So my five years hardwork went down the drain like that, and I have a loan to pay. What stung me most was not the arson attack but how my wife behaved. I had to check into a rehab for depression management immediately after the fire, only to get back home to find my wife and my 8 year old son missing. She was not available on phone, and I guess all her friends and relatives had been instructed not to pick my calls. She had left me at my lowest! Incomeless and sick. Afterwards, she changed the boys school to ensure I had no acccess to him. I remember one time I learnt the boy had visited his grandparents and camped at the gate just to say hi to my son. I was denied access and embarrassed infront of my son. A former high school mate came to my rescue; gave me a laptop and taught me academic writing, he actually also gave me a writing acc that costed over 40k then free of charge (long live men who come through for fellow men). Academic writing has good money because within two years, I was making almost the same as I was making from my business, and my life was back on track. Na ujue wanawake hawananga adabu, news reached her I was constructing a humongous house on my inherited land last year, na mtu hatujaongea na yeye since 2016, akaanza kunitafuta,anataka child support! Child support ya mtoto karibu nipigwe mob justice nikijaribu kumuona kwa babu yake? She actually threatened to sue me for child support. Kumbe, she already has another kid with a deadbeat, and is struggling to raise them, and now she wants to use the so called child support to get some level of financial stability. I decided to counter her. My son was in form one last year. I located the school, went and paid third term fees and fees for the next six terms, and gave him copies of the receipt to take to the mother. I also left 45k at the school accounts office as his pocket money ,of which he should be given 7k at the beginning of every term as pocket money for the next six terms, and he is aware of that. When the mother learnt what I had done, this January, she is attempting to change the boy from the school to another ndio pesa ipotelee. Kijanaa na yeye amekataa kuchange shule (Boy knows there is 7k pocket money waiting for him on opening day, then you try to get him change schools? Ajee?. ). Basically, with more than 400k of school fees paid in advance, the child support case lacks a foundation. Fellow men, the woman you call a wife, can she stand by you at your lowest? How long would she take to leave you if you suddenly became flat broke or incapacitated by disease? Unplugged is actually talking about things some of us have gone through and is awaiting many men out there, so when Jacob tells you to study female nature like you are studying for an exam, take the dude seriously. Some of us tumepitia haya maneno,thankly I am out of the woods already. Take Unplugged and its lessons and insights seriously, fellow brothers.
Innocent mwaura –
At first I felt and thought the book is Soo much against women, I had to read it again slowly ,I now understand we men are the foundation of the society and we should give our relationship the bearing and the direction ,the book has expounded the good book Genesis 2:15 The LORD God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden one to work it two to take care of it by we men making ourselves our own point of origin, solidy ourselves, avoid scarcity mindset by taking the burden of performance and understand the briffault law we will grow better together and have stronger relationship which will translate to better society
Jeff Mwangemi –
I highly, HIGHLY recommend this book. Salute to the author.
Daniel Oketch –
I took a loan to furnish a house for a female workmate I was dating. One day I found a man in the house kumbe he was the one paying rent, he also realized I was the one who had furnished the house. We didnt fight, instead we resolved to kick out the lady out of “our” house with her few belongings. Later we decided to convert into an Airbnb, and that is how a business partnership with a stranger I could have fought started. After successfully converting a few more houses into airbnbs, we are in the process of leasing a 3 storey bedsitter apartment and transform it into airbnbs. With much more money than I had then, I can no longer use money to please women. NEVAAAA!
Enock Aranda –
I studied at Kenyatta University main campus. For the four years, having come from rural Nyamira County, I was a survivor of HELB loan. Let me tell you. All the six girls I approached to date turned me down. I know what men go through in their 20s.
I never got laid while in my undergraduate. I graduated, four years went by without no formal employment. Same story. Ladies thoroughly rejected my advances. My ego sunk. But I was so good in academia. I had a B+ in high-school KCSE exams. I seriously embarked on scholarship applications.
I got selected for the Chevening scholarship interviews at the UK embassy Nairobi in early 2017 and when the results came out in June of that year, I didn’t make to the finalist. Man. That sunk me, alot.
Anyway.
Fast forward, to 2019, I applied to two schools in the USA. Got admitted and was to start my masters in August 2020, then coronavirus pandemic came. The world was closed. One year went and my chances went like that. Another blow. Seems the gods were against my efforts. I only had a smart phone, laptop and Internet.
From September of 2020, I applied to 12 universities, a mix of masters and PhD programs. I submitted scholarship applications to universities in the UK, USA and Ireland. I got interviewed to five PhD scholarship and all never materialised.
Fortunately, my persistence paid off. I got a scholarship to an Ivy league university in the USA. Maze. What relief.
What’s the essence of my story. All this period of my hurts and struggle, I was unemployed and used to stay with my elder sister. She was so disrespectful and one time did evict me at night. Alinifukuza. That still is in my mind. Kuna vitu maboy hatusahau. Things that hurt our ego.
The contempt I got for being unemployed exposed me to know first hand experience at how women can be mean to dudes when broke.
On the verge of getting my visa to travel to the US for my masters, I thought like, now its time to get a girlfriend and atleast be a man and be laid you know, eventually get married.
I got a Kerubo from Kenyatta University. We vibed in few months and I’d told her about my life plans.
She one day woke up and blocked me off of all her social media accounts and phone call I made went blocked.
As a kinuthia I was, I tried to pester her for a chance to engage. One day I called and she gave another man the phone to answer. I got hurt, deeply. One week depressed but I said to hell with her. I pulled my strups and said my life first. Now, I started my masters in August 2021 and I’m graduating in May 2023.
I just realised I have been admitted to the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill for my PhD in Public policy. A five years course with a full scholarship.
Recently, I got her liking my social media photos. A gesture that she may want to come back. I’m no longer a Kinuthia. How I wish she gave me a chance when I was innocent at love.
Men: Focus on your purpose and avoid women. Nearly all of them are dream killers. Bana, my blood sister chased me out of her house when I was unemployed after my success delayed a bit. What of the so called girlfriends?
Women have no remorse to broke men and when they earn more than them. Mademu ukua contemptuous sana in those cases. You’ll be emasculated alot by women for just losing your job.
I’ll be polygamous after my studies to make up for the past rejections.
Viva boy childs.
Chweya –
This is one book I’ve read in a record time than other books. Our fathers indeed never taught us lots of things that we’ve come to learn on our way to adulthood. My key takeaway is to always ask myself while in any situation, “Is the juice worth the squeeze?” I’ve understood a lot about us men, things that we do and we think we think, wow, this is the light bulb moment in this relationship or union, and then later find out some things are just bubbles. I’ve also learned about women, I love women and I appreciate their role in our lives. I strongly recommend this book to those who identify as male and female. The book has given me lots of insight into society at large and now I am better equipped. Thanks Jacob for doing some great work.
SteveTheWriter –
I went for this book as a matter of urgency when I finally set my mind to read it. I started reading it on the Matatu Queue in CBD, continued interacting with it throughout my journey home. Got home and I couldn’t put it down until it was necessary that I attend to other things. I carried it to work, proceeded with the reading, and sacrificed my off-duty hours to it…. I never dropped and took every advantage of the time I had to consume the content.
About the content… now that I have consumed it. I have a say. The author devouted his time to conduct in-depth research (evidence-based), narrate stories that are relatable to the intended audience, and not just to fill pages but to demonstrate and communicate valuable relevant content. The writing is top-notch regardless of a few errors here and there that may have escaped the eye.
About the subject… the subject is relevant to the present man (men and women). One of the core issues that disrupt humanity today is intersexual dynamics, particularly how men relate to women in family-building arrangements. Indeed, men are losing it and some facts need to be kept straight without the contamination of popular culture. The author does so without flinching, zero chills!
My promise to you who intends to read this book, male or female, is that you will mirror yourself in the pages of this book several times. I did! You are, therefore, a character in this book. Who doesn’t want to read a book where they are featured?
My lesson from the book: “As a man, wake up, find your bearing, find your true north, and embrace the BURDEN OF PERFORMANCE! Put yourself first. Acknowledge hypergamy and its precepts, and let that guide your decisions pertaining to finding a life partner. Create value out of yourself and be the Leader always. Exhibit confidence and take charge always. Be your mental point of origin. Focus!” (Yes, I am shouting).
I’m glad I read this book in my singlehood.
Favourite line that stuck in my head (paraphrased): How do you move from being a single man opening fridge in a boxer to dealing with a trio of a woman with a child, the child, and another man (the child’s father)? Ha Ha Ha!
#SteveTheWriter
Raymond Mwega –
Unplugged is such a needed book especially in helping men navigate the hostile waters that is romantic long term relationships. It does not matter how old you are as a man or how long your relationship has lasted, unplugged will help you improve. Married 12 years and I have gotten a few gems that I will start implementing in my own home. Understand women nature, then act accordingly.
The real life stories push the message home in such a raw manner that hits to the core of a man’s being.
Today I am handing over the copy to my sixty something year old dad. You can never be too old to unplug.
Henry Desagu –
The new world order will be created by men who unplug from comforting lies. The next human society will be shaped by men who embrace the cold truths, such as those espoused in this book.
Bishop Gitahi –
As a strong proponent of traditional masculinity, I will quote, cite, and refer to this book extensively because it totally in congruent with my line of thought, perspective, and beliefs.
Christine Wairimu –
This book will not be received positively by fellow women because it reveals a lot of truths about us. The truth hurts, and the acerbic truths inside here will hurt even more. Be ready for vitriol from womenfolk
CK Njuguna (verified owner) –
Every University/College should have a budget for this book to gift every young man that exits its gates for the last time to begin their lives because at this point they cannot tell their rectum from a hole in the ground.
If they are not going to teach intersexual dynamics, this is the least they can do. It will save these men from future unnecessary chaos.
Call it CSR.
Tonny Otieno –
Jacob really understands one language called TRUTH . At some point I stared at my ceiling board wondering how majority of men have being living a lie. I guarantee men will not remain the same after reading this book. Mental point of origin , burden of performance and purpose stood out for me. Feel appreciated in taking your time to write such an amazing book . Simply elevating.
Robert Nagila –
Well, I have been living a big lie. Unplug really opening my eyes. Unplugging requires unlearning the crap that has been fed to us to bait us, enslave our minds and emasculated men.
Pastor Mankush –
I got this book as a gift from my fellow Pastor and I have just recommended it to men in my church. I will also widely recommend it to Agikuyu men during my social missions around Mt Kenya, because if there is a community where men need to go back to their basics its the Agikuyu
Muthigani –
I remember taking loans against everything I owned and banking the money in an offshore account, then defaulting on the payments, when she filed for divorce on flimsy grounds in 2004, eyeing a share of my wealth. Even before the divorce case was over, the banks had started auctioning my land, trucks and buildings. When she realized there is nothing left she stopped pursuing the divorce and threw out the case. I immediately filed for divorce, and I never remarried. My only child is now 26 and newly married and I am glad his wife can never do what my his mother attempted to do to me before I outsmarted her, courtesy of the new supreme court ruling, but he still needs this book because, women are women and men must always remain alert.
Kennedy Mwirotsi –
Reading the book twice just to see how I used to simp before has taken me to a journey I didn’t see it coming.
On many occasions, I used to stacked with blue pill mentality that tends to believe that there’s only one fish in the ocean. C’mon I still don’t believe that I would beg and beg.
Later on, Amerix came and Jacob Aliet simplified it in a way I could join the dots and subscribe to Abundance mentality. Being an Alpha man needs you to focus on your goals. Jacob has recommended alot more things you can unplug to be Alpha.
To any man who feels drained, stack at the same place or stagnant at a Maddy place, just get UNPLUGGED!
MEN, two important days in your life, the day you were born and the day you realized why you were born.
Let’s meet at WORK!
Okech-Okoth Patrique –
My Review
The book Unplugged:
The writing style is clear, concise and direct to the point. No prevarication or sugar coating but quoting if veritable facts and stats backed by well researched and cross-referenced sources.
In this book a lot of sagacious wisdom is brewed and the reader, especially the primary male target audience hoping to navigate their way in the current gynocentric driven social order, finds a gem of brutal truths quite amenable and applicable in their lives as they sail the murky waters of latter day dating games and strut the treacherous landscape of marriage today.
I recommend this book to any young male at the onset of his 22nd birth date.
This book is not an antidote for damaged relationships or irreparably broken marriages. But this book’s most important ingredient is the Red Pill that allow all men of basic intellect to fundamentally discern,:
WHAT YOU DON’T WANT IN A WOMAN!
Okech -Okoth Pat
Read it thrice before sex. Thank me later.
Kokan –
Make this book available at Greatwall Athi River. Nowhere else in Kenya is there a concentration of men who need masculinity oriented liberation than Greatwall
Muema Kavita –
Just gifted my copy of unplugged to a college student after averting a potentially ugly conflict. There is a small college in my hood, so this guy has one of the classmates as a girlfriend. He has been using his pocket money to buy her meals daily to keep the fire burning, then last night, for only a box of pizza, the girl went for a sleep over at one of the houses in the hood, as I overheard from their argument that was about to turn ugly before I intervened. Took to they guy to my house, gave him some talk based on what Ive planned from unplugged then gave him the book to read. I will actually do a follow up to ensure he unplugs completely.
Samuel Kairu –
This is what I call a high impact book. By the time you are half way, you feel a strong need to take an action to remedy some aspect of your life.
Lenny Gitari –
I wrote a book, then before I published I read unplugged. Even though the subject matter are quite different, I felt so challenged by the difference in language, diction, coherence, thought processing that I had to revise my script to up my game. I have never read a book so exellently written, this one is an A star product.
James Mubachia –
I reaď unplugged 6 months ago and decided to unplug from
1. Alcoholism
2. Gambling
3. Simping oriented dates
4. Hedonistic roadtrips
I would instead save the money I would have wasted on these empty escapades, and last weekend, the savings crossed half a million mark. I have saved 507k in 6 months thanks to unplugged
Pascal Tokodi –
Unplugged is all about what men have lost and what they must recover to regain their lost glory. Undoubtedly, there will be glory for those who will detach from comforting lies and embrace to hard truths
Councillor Njohi –
This is a big big book. Big in ideas. Big in its transformative potential. Murang’a men will really benefit, and I pledge to buy 10 copies and send them to Murang’a
Tony Muiruri –
I read Mubachias review, posted on Facebook, and let me tell you, I have an almost similar experience though mine is both creating value rather and saving. I am a 34 year old high school teacher. I quit alcohol and partying a few months after reading unplugged (I read in August) and started creating value with the time I use to waste as advised. I have since turned my erstwhile idle three acres of land here in Maragua into a goldmine. The whole land is now a spinach plantation fetching me more than 30k weekly. Nilikuwa nakunywa, pesa inaisha, naanza kunywa na credit, salary ikiingia, natumia half of it to settle bills in bar. So far so good! Apart from making more than my salary from farming, I nowadays spend less than half of my salary because I dont even have time to waste money. As I planned to get married later in the year, I will use Unplugged as my guide. Nothing will has ever produced so much change in my life in such a short time more than unplugged. I was so much in to alcohol that I never even thought about starting a family, but now I will.
Tito Ngigi –
Unplugged is an interesting engaging, and thought provoking read that encourages personal change.
Victor Wairegi –
The author has aptly captured the new world order that has placed the man in between a rock and a hard place, but I invite the author to do an ethnographic study of the Akorino society, and find why
1. Their are women are submisive and highly feminine rarely compete with men or challenge the status quo
2. Their men are highly masculine and aptly play their rightful role in the family
3. The Akorino church has resisted the feministic influences and pressure destroying men in modern churches
4. Akorino families are more stable than most Christian families
There is something about Akorinos that men can think about as they unplug.
John Chacha Maroa –
My first step of unplugging was doing away with low value habits and company and eliminating time wasters. I work with at the administrative section of a local university, and I had a lot of free time. I would hang around in bars and restaurants with my buddies drinking and discussing politics and such like staff and then go home just before midnight, almost on a daily basis. First step was to find something to do with all this free time. A friend taught me SEO writing, and within a month, I became one of his part time writers, paying me sh 300 per 500 words. I gradually disappeared from my drinking and politicking circles, and rumours started spreading ati nimekaliwa na bibi, mpaka nimekatazwa kuhang out. They should have known I was trying to do away with low value company and time wasters. They should have known I was making 2-3k every evening after work, guys, thats what happens when you unplug from low value and start chasing high value, a big lesson I learnt from this book. I have since graduated from being paid sh 300 per 500 words while working under someone to owning my own articles account. In less than 4 months, I have already cleared all my loans, with money earned from side hustle and I am now working towards bigger things, of course after unplugging myself from a very heavy debt burden. Guys who spread rumours that nimekaliwa na bibi are now like, budaa, show me your ways, after noticing some slight lifestyle changes. I strongly, strongly strongly recommend this book, because I am a big evidence of its transformative potential
Julius Kwenga –
Unplugged is the modern Da Vinci code for men. I have taken time to come up with words that evoke the effort, brilliance and wisdom to debunk the myths by the author which we as men have been conditioned over time and generations to rely on as the true north while in essence we have in some instances come to learn only too late in the day, probably after some serious character development from our ladies, that things are murky out here. Unplugged begins by resetting these notions and actually stripping you bare to accept that you as a man has been caught up in one or several of these myths. It then takes you on a highway of self evaluation and critic interchanges with solid life scenarios. It then guides you onto the true north and actually elucidates on how to get there. This book is simply a masterpiece of our generation, which was incidentally conditioned to be blue pilled especially with the advancement of feminism within the same period. I recommend this book as a must read and must have for any man from the age of 21years as men try to regain their foothold and relate better with women in all spheres of life. I cannot wait for the sequel. The real emancipation of men has indeed began. Thank you Jacob for this gem full of life altering wisdom.
Nichols Kiago –
We had a boys club of kupiga sherehe, then one of us introduced us to unplugged. After everyone had read the book, we had a deep reflection, tujenganee ama tuendelee kuharibika? Well, we are currently helping each other to quit alcohol, after that is done, we will decide what to do together with them money saved.
Mburu Wayne –
You know a book is high impact when your pastor veers of the scripture and quotes the book. My pastor quoted this book last week during a mens seminar, and I had to buy it the following day, and I can confirm its the real deal. As many men as possible should read it
Tim Ariwi –
I bumped into unplugged at a friends house (he was housing me coz I had hit rock bottom and was almost giving up on life). Instead of giving up, I got the motivation to start again from that bottom. I am not out of the woods yet but I have some sense of clarity on how to get back to my feet.
Muthike Boniface –
Glad to hear this book being quoted in a church in Kerugoya. The masculinity gospel is now going deep down to the grassroots
Charles Ekidor –
Bought my copy on saturday. I am already through with reading. I agree with all the positive reviews I had read prior to the purchase. This book will transform generations of men. Parents should especially arm their boys with this book as they transition from teenage to young adulthood.
Ahmed Farah –
I have made a habit of reading a chapter of unplugged every week. I have done that since September. I finished reading, I start allover again. Each reading cycle produces a different level of understanding and perception
Ngoni Thuita –
This book has helped me become a ruthlessly focused man. Nothing can distract me from my purpose, and I have learnt to treat comforting lies with the contempt they deserve. By the way, no man can achieve his purpose when still plugged to the comforting lies; they are the biggest enemies of masculine purpose. Therefore, men must unplug and go back to the basics of a man.
Pablit Muchemi –
The day I bought unplugged, nilikuwa nimetuma fare ikakuliwa , nikajiambia ile fare nilikuwa nipeane ya mtu kurudi kwao si let me buy this book everyone is talking about. Well, I thank the lady for eating fare because I don’t think I would have bought this phenomenal book. One important lesson I have learnt from this book is the value of discipline. You cannot unplug if you are not disciplined. It takes discipline to kick out self-sabotaging habits, to make new constructive habits a routine, to set goals and achieve them, to avoid the allure of quick fixes get rich quick schemes life on the fast lane, and the endless supply of sex. This book will help highly disciplined people or indisciplined ones who are ready to change their way.
PK Munene –
It takes courage to write such a book seeing the rather issues it tackles.
It also takes courage to read it to the end cos it’s disruptive, you may lose friends cos of implementing the knowledge there-in. All in all, this is the wake up call that so many men and women need, to get them back to reality. As a man, I will work even harder & smarter going forward and won’t be swayed by all the modern feminism happening around us.
Mugendi Miriti –
I read Unplugged and started reflecting on my life. A serious reflection that includes going through my Mpesa statements to take stock of my expenses for the last two years. My spending on alcohol, simping, and sherehe oriented nonsense in 48 months can build a quality 3 bedroom house here in Meru, na bado naishi kwa rental. Mpaka najichukia tu. Anyway, I have purposed to save the same amount (4m) in the next two years and build myself a nice home, and this means unplugging from all manner of bullshit first.
Simon Kimani –
Initially, I read a borrowed copy but had to purchase my own, you know, for future reference
Kipkemoi Bowen –
I actively participate in the orientation of freshers where I work (University) and from today henceforth, I will emphatically recommend this book to male freshers. This book can save a generation.
Elvis Mang’unyi –
Unplugged; things our fathers did not tell us is simply unputdownable! So engrossing with the uncomfortable facts that reset your thinking irrespective of your gender, you read and you are never the same again. Thank you Jacob for this, I keep asking why I never read it earlier.
Cedric Kilonzo –
6.08 pm Thursday 14th Feb 2023. Lawyer Dunstan Omari has just quoted Unplugged during a discussion on Valentines Day on KTN News, #JukwaalaKTN.
Andrew Karisa Mwachai –
Dunstan Omari is Unplugged too. It was interesting to hear him quote a book I love on TV
Joe Muchiri –
The truth hurts! Maan, reading unplugged was hurt after hurt. At some point, I felt its like the author knows part of my private life aptly describing me, my weaknesses, mediocre choices, silly decisions etc. The most important thing is that Ive realised that somethings I considered important are actually the biggest impediments to the realisation of full my potential.
Tim Kili –
One thing, the author has high IQ. Its easily detectable within the prose.
Moses Kagombe –
The chapter on mental point of origin should be expanded and published as a stand alone book. I believe there is a lot the author can give us that will build us. To me that was the most impactful chapter, it will undoubtedly change my life
John Munge –
This book was bought for me by my wife almost 4 months ago, and I didn’t even bother reading, until I watched Bitok’s show some few sundays ago, thats when I started looking for the book from whichever hell hole I had thrown it. My biggest regret is not reading it as soon as it was gifted to me. Had I not watched the online show, I would be living with some gold in the house without realising there is so much value lying there unread and unutilized. This book is pure gold. It prepares men for value creation and maintenance!
Rodgers Simani –
Its interesting to read about things that just happened to me. I was a victim of hypergamy just a few months ago, Dec 2022. As I read unplugged, a lot is becoming so much clear. Well, I don’t blame her. Nililala darasani, but anyway, the lesson is home.
Peter Otao Bruno –
So I got my copy yesterday the 14th of Feb, and maaan! Am sliding through Chapter 3 already, and this collection of wisdom tenets is dropping scales from my eyes faster than I pulled thru adolescence🙌🙌 Any sane 22nd Century Predator needs a copy, gender notwithstanding. Trust me this lad is marinating content in jet speed, Now am already spreading my tentacles down Ch.4 as I unplug! Ladies and Gentlemen, you better get your copy!
Prisca Nthenya –
Who said Unplugged is for men alone? I foundtje segment on mental point of origin more relevant to men that women
Jamleck Muthii –
Unplugging makes life cheap and easy. I like the kind of man I have become after shedding some habits and addictions
Harry –
A must read book. It has really opened my eyes and how I wish I knew wgat i have read in to e days of my youth. Though all is not lost. Jacob thank you for enlightening me. I believe am becoming a better man an making better decisions as a man. I have also got to understand the nature of women . The author has really simplified and made it easy to understand. So captivating.
Mwangi K. –
If this was published during nyayo “error” and women were in power, it would’ve passed for seditious material.
That said – highly recommended for all adult humans. Of being your own mental point of origin.
Shadrack Murage –
Mental point of origin!
Douglas Oluoch –
I had spent thousands of money trying to treat depression but with the mental clarity I got after reading Unplugged, that thing just went away.
Davy Muthima –
Walai naacha pombe!
Ouma Ogolla –
I was to buy a girl I have been dating for 20 month a Mazda Verisa as a birthday present next month after selling one of my bitcoins. After hearing my plans my best friend took me to a bookstore on 10th Feb and bought me a copy of this book, Unplugged. Just finished reading, and well, well, well….I have a lot of Unplugging to do but the first one is to put the 1.3 million a better use.
Suzzane Wakarima –
Unplugged saved my marriage. I am married to my childhood sweetheart heart, the only man Ive ever known. I love him but he is super lazy and rarely takes initiative. Tired of paying like 90 percent of the bills for almost a decade, and unable to make him change, I had planned to walk out of the marriage last year but before I even did, I started noticing some change, as time went by, the erstwhile couch potato became super busy, eish, in a few months he was like nothing Ive never seen, in fact I started falling in love with the new him, instead of leaving him. Even his mother could not understand whats happening. A few weeks ago, we were having some bed time talk and I asked him, “Ni kasisi mgani huyo alikihuribiria ukabadilika hivi”. He told me, “there is a book iko hapo kwa drawer, I read and I felt so insulted, and had to take some action”. Read the book too and realized what must have stung him. Anyway, thanks so much for that super gift to my family.
Alfred Nzumbi –
Its always good to learn from ones mistakes, but Unplugged makes it easier to learn from the mistakes by providing the clarity and mental stamina needed to rise above ones weaknesses
Nick Ndeda –
Shaking my head!
Duncan Muya –
I once blew away 120k on a single night on alcohol. Two years ago I was struggling to pay 12k rent for the one bedroom house I had downgraded to after thing went south, and how did things go haywire? Most of the things described in unplugged. Alcohol, women and simping, debauchery, lack of purpose and ambition, comfort zone, no side hustle. Having learnt my lesson and plus the insights provided by unplugged, you will never find me near any of these things thar brought me down. I cant even walk near a bar or alcohol outlet leave alone enter there. I am now on a beast mode, with three side hustles already. Cant joke with life again. Totally unplugged.
Nicholas Nyambane –
Unplugged made me realize that I have so much untapped potential and instead of tapping it, I was waiting time on stuff with zero returns. Since I unplugged from useless stuff, I find myself accomplishing in a day three times more that I would four months ago. I even created jobs for others in my attempts to maximize my potential
Thuo Gicuguma –
My girl and I were to go for three marital counselling sessions in church before our wedding mid this year. I went for the first session, then read unplugged before thr second. Sioni nikienda zenýe zimebaki, kuende vile kutaenda. Ni gutee!
Solo. M. –
I started seeing so many red flags in my wife after reading Unplugged, flags that I was blind to previously. I got so overly suspicious, I even had to secretly carry out three DNA test on “our son”. The quotes in our son can tell you the outcome of the tests. Its bitter sweet. Bitter that Ive been living a lie. Sweet, coz the truth has set me free.
Ibrahim Mugendi –
I gave my father 78 year old father, a pyschology Professor, Unplugged to read and his response was “There is no way I would have taught you these things, I never envisaged the problems you people are facing now, but make sure my grandchildren read this book. Its more relevant for then that you people in their 50s”.
Shem Nyauchi –
Unplugged woke me up from all forms of slumber! Niko ritho sasa.
Charity Wanjiru –
Glad I read Unplugged in my early 20s, now I know the kind of men to avoid and the type I can date
Henry Ohanga –
I am really learning!
OBADIAH KARIUKI –
This book has changed the way I think. It has encouraged me to double think or even tripple think about issues. I have practiced deep thinking since reading it and I have gained sharp mentak clarity
Richard Nzioki –
Life does not begin at 40, it begins after unplugging. Mine has just begun
Titus Murimi –
I bought unplugged after reading the many transformation stories from the reviews and less than a week after completing reading, I have made a major unplugging decision, restricting my TV watch time to 30 minutes a day not only to free up time for other important stuff but to shield myself from dopamine producing content likely to make me lose focus. My next unplugging effort is quitting alcohol entirely by the end of march. From there I will create a side hustle, by end of April, and then enrol for an online class in May.
Ted Bosire –
Reading Unplugged is like taking an entire course on how to be the best version of you. An entire course on how to man the hell up
Arthur Lelei –
Ten yeare from now, when I appear on a TV interview as one of the Top 40 under 40 of the future and I am asked “When did your race to the top start?”. I will tell them “The day I read Unplugged.
Marcus Kisa –
What a book! No book will ever prepare a young man like me for life outside campus better than this one
Beatrice Wangui –
Unplugged has made me soften my strong feminist stance. I agree ,the society needs strong men for sustainability as weak men produce chaos. Men have no option but to be strong and masculine.
Dancan Bushuru –
Men confuse a mother’s love for female nature, when in fact the two are greatly distinct, despite both being possessed by the same vessel – women.
They expect women to treat them with the same warmth, compassion and sacrifice their mothers gave them, only to find something all the more selfish and deceitful. This causes a crisis of perception.
You see women are warned about the dangers of men all their lives, that men will manipulate for sex, to be careful, to test him and be cautious etc. They have their defences up, even when they’re naive. But who warns men about women? Nobody. Most learn the hard way – through pain.
UNPLUG 💪.
Dr. Kingori –
This book will undoubtedly create a generation of indomitable lions, a generation of all-round conquerers.
Patrick Mwai –
Thanks God I read Unplugged just before I blindly commited a grave mistake. Woken up in the nick of time.
Isaac Awiti –
I bought the book after reading the reviews here, and I wasn’t disappointed. One thing I am very sure is that any man who reads unplugged will never be the same again. Change for the best happens almost by default.
Daniel Kiarie Muchai –
I have been thinking about a separation with my wife for almost for years but couldn’t make a straight decision due to considerations like what will the church say, how will friends react, what will my family say, and these considerations have made me stay in a very toxic and unhealthy marriage thats almost taking a toll on my psychological health. Then I read UNPLUGGED. The book made it easy for me to make the decision. I Put myself first and stopped considering others and their opinions. I am currently typing this from a bedsitter in one of the towns in Kajiado county, having left a home I built, feeling way much better re-energized and ready to start all over again from scratch.
Eliud Kipkorir –
Late last year, my wife threatened to go back to her parents and started packing her belongings. The threats came after I suggested that we move out of the 2 bedroom house whose rent was 26k in a gated community in Athi River and move into a cheaper house in a non gated area in the same town, costing 12k less in rent. I wanted to save money to fast track the completion of a house I am building in Kitengela, and may be stop paying rent in a years time. Nyumba ilikuwa imekwama coz of financial constraints, and I had to make sacrifices here and there to save at least 50k a month, and use it towards the completion. Unplugged ilikuwa ishanifanya kichwa ngumu, so sikubembeleza mtu. I immediately called my sister and asked her if she has a friend who is single and searching so that she can come and fill the impending vacancy ASAP. My wife overheard the conversation, and aborted her departure mission. Sasa tuko kwa 2 bedroom ya 14k, waiting to get into our home by December. The masculinity gospel that has sunk deep into my head cannot allow me to be manipulated by a woman, but I swear, ingekuwa 2 years ago, ningebembeleza huyo bibi and may be fail to make sacrifices with long term returns. Mwanaume ni kukaa ngumu. UNPLUG!
MORRIS MAITHA –
I used to think mimi ni mtu mjanja sana na mtu wa maana sana but unplugged has made me realize I am actually a very stupid man, extremely stupid. Stupiiiiid! And with that realisation, I have decided never to be stupid again.
Ivan Nyamari –
I once went to visit a woman but rejected her sexual advances. Angered by the rejection, she threatened to scream and frame me for rape. So I agreed to sleep with her on condition I use a certain brand of Condom, which we had to go out and buy. Once we were out of the gate, ile mbio nilitoka, ata Omanyala hawezani. That was the last time I was I was in a womans house. Visiting womens houses is another thing men should Unplug from.
Waqo Bonaya –
Whatever Amerix says on Twitter and Kibe says on You Tube becomes even more vivid and hits harder when you read Unplugged.
Daniels Wabuge –
If you read this book and it does not change your mindset, nothing else will ever change it, not even a brain surgery.
Samuel Kamande –
I missed the Liverpool vs Manchester United game, which I hear the scoreline was the prefix of 95 percent of phone number of Kenyans, because I couldnt put Unplugged down. Once I started reading on Saturday, I got do immersed that I could not do anything else until I finished it. By the way I am a TV addict and the fact that I didnt watch TV for 18 hours when reading unplugged means that reading unplugged was an act of unplugging. One thing I need to unplug from ASAP is buying affection, I am one of the biggest victim spending money to get female attention and attraction.
Kamau Kabugi –
My marriage had broken down almost irredeemably mainly because my wife and I somehow like competitors, as I used to respond to her drama with an equal share of drama. Once I unplugged and learnt how to ignore negative feminine energy and focus on more important stuff, once I learnt how to be the bigger person in a conflict situation, her drama has massively reduced and now we are in pur best phase of marriage
Jakes Koome –
Once you read Unplugged then make a mistake in life, the book and its lessons rings on your mind when you are facing the consequences. Like now I am facing the painful consequences of not heeding to some of its lessons.
Moffat Muchilwa –
I bought this book within a few weeks of its launch in June 2022, and I have read it cover to cover seven times, and I am not yet done. You see, unplugged is about life, society and human conditions. Many things are happening today that validate what the author says. You end up perceiving the society with an unplugged lense. What I like about reading unplugged many times is that each reading cycle produces a deeper understanding of the human condition, new word order, and social structure. Again, unplugged can act as a reference book; the book you run to when you get into trouble to search for solutions. For example everytime I feel like I am losing control or I am doing things to please others or gain their validation, I always refer to the chapter “mental point of origin”
Kitipa ole Sing’aru –
Anyone who has read Unplugged and gone ahead to Unplug will tell you that unplugging automatically makes you more focused. It happens automatically.
Chris Mamati –
One takeway from this book is that a man cannot lead, create, or achieve anything substantial while still plugged to comforting lies and mediocrity. Unplugging is a prerequisite for leadership, value creation and achievement of masculine purpose
Alexander Kaminichia –
I like how the author insists that men must unplug from mediocrity because mediocrity is the killer of men, their dreams, ambitions and careers, and by the way, men should refrain from chatting with underage girls. You may not sleep with her, so youve broken no law, but imagine what damage to your reputation would leaked screenshot of you in your late 20s or your 30s chatting with a 15 or 16 year old do, especially if the chats are raunchy? Imagine a single mother discovering her teenage daughter is chatting with a man almost her age who believes he should be pursuing her…hizo screenshots zitatembea, kutawaka motoo. A friend had to spend tens of thousands ndio story kama hiyo ikanyangiwe, and they might keep extorting more money from him. Lets avoid all forms of mediocrity, because mediocrity is a trouble magnet
James Wokabi –
This book can be used by counsellers especially those providing cognitive behavior therapy to deal with substance abuse disorder. If I quit alcohol after reading this book, I believe it can help many people with the disorder.
Tirop –
I learnt about this book on Tinder. A womans bio read ” If you want to know the kind of man I am looking for, read a book called Unplugged. I got curios and bought the book. Well, I never went back to Tinder to look for the woman but she helped me read on of the most empowering resources of our times
John Kyatha Kivindyo –
One thing that makes Unplugged go viral is that it came when men needed it most. Me included. And everyone I have referred this book confesses that they read it at the most opportune time. I know many men who refer to reading Unplugged as their main turning point in life. Me included. I wish mountains of blessings for this author because the turnaround in my life, and several men around me is more than phenomenal
Andrew Litaba –
There is a misconception that women in certain professions make better wives than other professions, with some people believing that some occupations produce motherly and submissive women. Due to this, men have been rushing to date “elementary pedagogists” only to realize hypergamy and solipsism are inherent female traits, the end up getting character development from the quarters the least expect. As the author says, understand female nature. The nature is rarely changed by nurture. A village woman will be as hypergamous and solipsistic as an urban woman, but we fail to read red flags in vienyejis due to the belief that they are less exposed and the inantention can lead to serious character development and there is no CD as painful as one delivered by the person you believed is the least harmful. Nurture rarely changes nature.
Lempaa ole Keiwua –
EPIPHANIC!
Wallace Gathara –
As someone about to graduate with a masters in sociology, I find this book deeper than any work I have read during the entire course. The case studies in this book are serious depiction of the modern state of the human society. No existing book aptly captures the modern society in terms of gender relations than Unplugged
Olukunga –
Lakini hypergamy has its own advantages pia. Mamangu ashawahi nionyesha the man she dumped before marrying my dad, I swear angeoa ex wake huyo saa hii ningekuwa chokosh.
Ali Jamal –
The chapter on mental point of origin hits differently. I had to read it thrice after completing the book.
Lawrence Kemunche –
I wonder how long it took to produce this book because the depth and quality of social research in here might have taken years to collect data.
Ronald Muthui –
Man shall not read Unplugged alone. Refer the book to as many other men as possible. There is so much happening to men whose solution lies in this book. Tujengane.
Dr. Richard Kosgey –
Dopamine is underrated by economists. Even tbough its hard to quantify, someone should qualitatively study the link between dopamine and loss of value, especially dopamine value. How much wealth can we create if we unplugged from dopamine-esque pursuits? The author makes sense when he says that dopamine is one of the biggest distractions and its erosive effect on value creation potential is phenomenal. Entertainment is not bad, having fun is okay but dopamine-led men are the scum of the earth,the worst there shall ever be. This book has enabled me to unplug from everything dopamine-esque
John Mwenjwa –
Read this book in 18 hours. Couldn’t afford to put it down once I started reading, and it is exactly what I needed to turn around my life
Paul Wanyina –
One you read unplug, you realize that a significant part of your life has been a lie, you open your eyes and realize that most of what youve been spending money on has been an impediment to your ability to create more money. How much value can I create without the Premium DSTV I pay for close to 10k monthly, more than 100k a year. Apart from taking my 100k+ annually, it also takes away much time that can be channelled towards value creating pursuits. Once I started thinking along that line, my eyes opened towards a whole range of money saving possibilities that can simultaneously create a lot of time for value creation. Thanks Unplugged for opening me up to new and rich realities.
Wakairu Murathe –
This book is wisdom, sense and logic on steroids.
James Barasa –
Unplugged has made me a better man. I think I was stressing my wife with too much bull**** from which I have Unplugged, and the happiness evident in her recently means she is the biggest beneficiary of my unplugging.
Daniel Obwogi –
I was given this book as a Christmas present by my sister, and I didnt bother reading until last week when several fb friends shared a post containing a review of the book, and I was like wait , dont I have this book in my house?. So, the same evening I start reading the book and soon I discover its one hell of a gem, I mean, why did I take that long to read it? Btw my sister must have noted some problems I am experiencing but was not bold enough to approach me, so she bought me a book, thats my conclusion, coz I already know what to fix.
Adrian Lukoye –
In the 26 hours I spent to read unplugged last year, I learnt more than I have learnt during my 33 years of existence. Not even my bachelors and two masters degrees can have such a significant impact
Dennis Lokwei –
This book is the truth. Everyman need to get a copy now. I got this book December last year and i have read it twice and everytime it felt new…Its the man’s bible. My marriage crambled down in 2017…it was a devastating experience, i found solace in alcohol and women. Little did i know that i was digging a hole and it was getting deeper and deeper with time. Somehow with the help of my brother and a few friends i was able to chance my ways. I joined the gym to distracted myself. I now understand what was happening. The female nature and the hypergamy was at play. At the time my finances had dwindled down, as a tenderprenuer there was lots of pending payments and the government had geared towards the election and ofcourse the focus was not paying contractors but winning the election. So we were not paid for a considerable long time. Well, i now no better and will put myself as the mental point of origin when making major decisions! Many thanks to the author. Better together!
Karl Boit –
May be its time we unplugged from celebrities. They are normal human beings with weaknesses and frailties like ours, or even more. But we treat them like gods, and are too excited and fascinated to be around them yet some of them are criminals, misfits, and failures in their private lifes. Our obsession with celebrities makes us pedestalize empty headed mountebanks and nondescripts. We are constantly being fed with mountains of bulshit from the muttonheads we have pedestalized just because they can sing, act, clown, and do all manner of stuff that makes us think they are special and deserve to be worshipped.We are giving scoundrels full of bulshit too much attention and in turn they give must higher mountains of shit to sustain the attention, and the result innatention to things that matter, and that is how we continue to sink lower as a nation and as men. Celebrities are not gods and may be most of us have higher quality lives and better peace of mind than the charlatans we worship. Don’t be too excited to hang around celebrities, I am sure by now you know how tragic it can be. Treat some of these mofos with the contempt they deserve instead of pedestalizing them. This book has made an important point on the issue of attention. What are you giving attention to? Does it have ROI? If it does not, effing unplug and give attention to stuff with some ROI.
Peter Salasya –
The concept of frame made so much sense to me that I had to do a symbolic experiment. I took one of my physical photos stored in a picture album and another that has been framed and hung on a wall. First, I tried to fold the non framed pic. It folds easily. Tried the same on the framed one. It cant fold. Secondly, I tried to make some tearing on the unframed photo. It got torn. For the framed photo, you cannot even acess it to tear it in the first phrase. That is exactly what masculine frame does. People without it are vulnerable to pressures and all manner of manipulation. Those with a frame are Stoic, according to my understanding of the concept from Unplugged.
Andiego Ken –
The way of peace
Free from stressors
Detailed and insightful reading of “Unplugged” reveals a deeper interconnectivity of a system that only and effectively works normally and progressively, when the foreign lifeline is unplugged- the things our Fathers did not tell us.
Kerubo Guto –
I Know several grown up boys who have not adequately transitioned to manhood I can save with this resource. I will walk out of Nuria with half a dozen copies.
Charles Wanjoya –
Doing a third reading of this book. Its important to cement these critical lessons
Anonymous –
Shiet!Shiet!Shiet! I had planned to propose to her in public during my birthday next month. I am aborting that mission. I am going slow on this relationship until I build some masculine frame coz I swear I was unknowingly headed in the wrong direction but reading this book has saved the situation