Unplugged: Things Our Fathers Did not Tell Us by Jacob Aliet

Well, well, well,

I got my copy recently from my father-in-law just before our wedding. I’ve read, and I won’t let him down.

A research we completed a few weeks ago reveals an increase in hotel room bookings in downtown, midtown Nairobi, and the outskirts between 4.30 and 5.30 am in the morning signaling an evolution in the cheating tendencies of Nairobians. Traditionally, one would suspect their spouses when they came home late in the evening, then people moved their usherati to lunch time to avoid suspicion. Recent trends now indicate cheating is happening very early in the morning taking advantage of the need to “beat jam” to arrive early in town for randy sexual excapades? Does you spouse leave home too early in the morning. I am not saying leaving home at 3.30 in the morning to beat jam is always a red flag, but eh..eh..eh! Early morning hotel bookings in Nairobi are on the rise.

I decided to fix my life, especially my health and fitness, doing abt 15 to 20k steps daily, weight lifting thrice a week, one meal a day, no sugar and processed carbs, no alcohol, no sweetened beverages, no seed oils, etc, as part of Unplugging from irresponsible consumption. One year down the line, my kitambi is gone, shed almost a quarter of my weight, and my fitness levels are up there. Unfortunately, this has become a source of conflict in my marriage. My wife is so insecure and keeps saying I am doing this to attract girls. Of course people around the hood have been talking about my transformation in physique and its not going down well with her. Now I am being accused of potential infidelity and she no longer sleeps in the master bedroom, ati she can’t sleep with a man who is about to cheat on her. She has no evidence of infidelity, just mere predictions. I am tired of this nonsense. Its draining! I can’t abandon my health and fitness goals to please her or assuage her insecurities. I will chose my health and fitness over her. Ends!

My first marriage collapsed in 2012 when I found my wife of three years had been cheating with her boss for a long time, and a subsequent failed DNA test for what I used to call my son. I suspected the boss could have been the father, and did the test, confirming I was not the father.

I could have reacted how many men who find themselves in similar situation, and probably end up in jail or lose my job, but I counted my losses, healed my wounds, moved on, and focused on becoming the highest form of me. 11 years down the line, coincidentally I am currently the boss of my ex-wife’s former boss in a bigger organisation.

Some people in my position would use that opportunity to revenge, but I didn’t. No point of working hard to rise that up then start stooping that low. The moment I started perceiving him the setback that launched my comeback and mercurial rise in my career, all the bitterness dissipated. Its all about perceptions, I could have perceived him as an enemy whose downfall I need to plot, but I opted to adopt a perception consistent with my current identity.

My journey resonates with one of the most important themes in Unplugged, how to become the best version of yourself especially after a set back. When you become the best version of yourself, also unplug from any bitterness associated with your past setbacks, as bitterness and resultant responses such as revenge, schadenfreude, and trying to prove a point to engineers of your past setbacks will only erode the value of the version of you, you have struggled to create during your comeback.

I gained a lot of awareness about dopamine after reading unplugged, prompting further research that made me realise that dopamine rush was responsible for more than 80 percent of my problems including addictions and impulsivity. That awareness has really transformed my life as dopamine no longer has the amount of control it had before. As a result I have beaten chronic addictions such as gambling, Arsenal (I no longer feel a thing when they lose or win), and alcohol. Whats more, I have higher levels of self discipline, I can stick to an exercise or fasting routine without impulsive behaviors disrupting them, and I have significantly improved my BMI, moving from obese to overweight, and I am now working towards bringing the BMI to below 24 and shed the overweight tag.

From my perspective as a young man, Unplugged is a revelation, rescuing men from the mire of misinformation and guiding us towards a path of authenticity. The author dismantles unnecessary societal misconceptions as he equally explains in details those that are relevant and transforms the ‘beta’ into a ‘red-pilled alpha,’ fostering a mindset grounded in realities and not those delusions we tend to ride on, this is a Cold-Hard-Truths tool indeed. I don’t want to talk about the poor decision I may have ever made as an undergraduate,for the book has already done it for me, in a broadway. But as I wait for graduation, this book is a beacon, illuminating the way to a life shaped by non-negotiable desire, genuine understanding and empowered choices in a society full of cropped “individuals” acting victims of each and every “raindrop” that falls on the earth of relationships. It’s a vital read, especially for young men like myself, on the brink of embarking on our life’s journey with clear eyes and a resolute spirit. Next year God willing, I’ll commence my masters degree, a well informed young man.
I’ve recommended the book to my two closest friends.

Whoever wrote this book, God Bless You. You may never know what you have done to my life, of course sent by God. This book will be forever remain my testimony of how God can use any resource including literature to intervene when you hit rock bottom

My interactions with women have never been the same since I read unplugged. I easily read their minds and decode their intentions with just a few words or even observing their body language. Some stuff I was blind to earlier are now easily noticeable

Unplugged does not use the “Mucere na Nyama ” approach to problem solving. It empowers you to create sustainable solutions to your challenges, resulting in long term changes to your thinking, decision-making, and even lifestyle.

This book contains volumes of knowledge. It would be sad if you read it from a biased point of view because you wouldn’t learn from it. To men, Unplugged is a man’s Constitution. Change or Perish. And if you’ve read Unplugged, read 50 Memos to men too. Aliet and Silas are educating the local man, book by book. Cant wait for Unplugged 2.

I not only questioned the whole life I’ve led as an adult man, I’ve had to question my whole existence as a man on this earth. I have even gone further to question the lives of the men who’ve had an influence on my life since my childhood. I’ve questioned a lot. Basically, the essence of the book spoke to me as a man in more ways than just my interaction with the female species. Every man on earth should read UNPLUGGED.

Yesterday, while seated on the balcony of a hotel I witnessed a heated argument between a man and his wife across the street. The woman slapped her husband then she dropped on the ground and started rolling while screaming. The crowd that started gathering started admonishing the husband for beating his wife in public. The saddest part was men who came to “defend the woman” lecturing the man with isht like “Real men don’t beat women”, without understanding the genesis of the whole situation. They walked away in shame after a boda boda rider who had recorded the whole incident produced a video of the whole story to save the man, when the men started frogmatching the husband to the chiefs camp. Reminded me of Men for Men plea in Unplugged and the wider manospace. Long live the boda rider! These other men who wanted to throw fellow men under the bus in defense of women or to please women are the scum of the earth. The worst there shall ever be. Nitamagui!

Not reading Unplugged and acting accordingly should be declared the highest form of male self-sabotage.

I stumbled upon unplugged in the most benial way. I say benial because I thought I was in a happy relationship at that time. My boxing coach had posted a picture of unplugged, I was eye cought by the subtitle ‘ Things Our Fatethers Did NOT Tell Us’, I asked for his copy and he bought me a signed copy. A week into reading unplugged, my relationship came crumbling down unexpectedly. Talk about bitter truths ! Must read for any man out here.

I’ve never read a book that has made me ask myself so much question about my life and choices

I will be buying this book after every two months and give to a young man. Ageing in a society full of weak and reckless younger men will be very uncomfortable and we must make every effort possible to shape the next generation of men

Unplugged should be like a journal. An issue every year. There is much that can be covered in subsequent volumes. What we have here is already transformative. There is much more room for more transformation of men. Keep it up.

One thing I have learnt from the wider unplugging or red pill movement championed by the likes of Aliet, Silas, Amerix and Kibe is that a mans behavior, trait, characteristic that works to the advantage of a woman without adding value to the man is a weakness. When women congratulate or shower praise men who step up to raise other mens kids and men go neglect their goals and purpose to pamper women they are simply telling you you are a weak mofo! That video of Kate Actress congratulating men who step up that has resurfaced should make men THINK HARD!

We are heading to a future where if a man/woman wants to have a kid they look for a woman/man interested in having a kid, sign an legally binding agreement on how to co-parent and then proceed to reproduce without even being in a relationship or marriage. There will be nothing like cheating, love triangles, patanisho, jealousy-related violence and murder, complicated pattern on phones, and all these nonsense revolving relationships and marriage.

We must embrace the cold hard truths and change our mindset or remain with the comforting lies and perish.
We must unite as men or perish as fools.

UNPLUG

I had to re-read Shaffie Weru and Joe Mfalme case study in Unplugged, and Unplugged made even more sense after the recent events revolving the female rally driver facing murder charges. Shaffie and Joe lost their jobs and were publicly humiliated for just making a statement. Mason Greenwood was forced out of Manchester United, and NIKE dropped him as one of its boot endorsers when he was falsely accused of rape, and could not regain his slot at the club and the endorsement, even after the legal system dropped the charges due to lack of evidence. On the other side, a female Rally driver is facing murder charges (allegedly killed a man), she has been allowed to continue racing, and none of her corporate sponsors have dropped her. What if it was a male athlete who allegedly killed a female one? Would the sponsors still be on board? Would he be allowed to continue racing as investigations continue in a society that banished Shaffie and Joe for making a mere statement, with a top beer company headed by a female threatening to withdraw adverts at Homeboyz Radio, forcing the station to suspend and later terminate Shaffie and Joe? Why were corporate sponsors so fast to withdraw adverts on Homeboyz but very slow to suspend their association with the female rally driver facing murder charges? These are rhetorical questions that should make everyone realize how the current system is rigged against the man. As Amerix said two days ago, this is the wrong time to even get confrontational with a woman in public. She can stab you and the response will be “She must have gone through a lot for her to act that way. Its a rigged new world order! The more isht happens in our society, the more unplugged continues to make sense. Masterpiece!

I’ve just finished reading The UNPLUGGED.I must confess that my brain,heart, beliefs and perception have been affected positively.As a young man in my early twenties, to be specific twenty,I’ve had the privilege to the information my own father may have not taught me.As they say ,to be forewarned is to be forearmed.Iam lucky and happy to be armed from your pot of wisdom.My money ,time and efforts was worth it.Thanks a bunch.May heavens bless you Aliet.

I’ve tried doing a quick summary of this beautiful book, by Jacob Aliet , which I read early this year. I have ended up writing a very long one. Not summary anymore. So a summary won’t do it any justice because there is so much to even select what to pick and what to leave out.
I’d simply say, if you are out there and struggling with gifting ideas, for any boy or man, then your search is over.
Jacob Aliet has done a fantastic job in:
1. Understanding the female nature, something that, for a very long time,society has deemed as a mystery that cannot be learnt or understood
2. He has addressed the much talked about ‘shortage of marriageable men and women’
3. Brought out interesting ideas on revitalising masculinity and building men who shoe leadership, stepping up in their roles and shedding off the feminine energy in them.
4. Jacob offers a myriad of challenges to the boychild and men generally in trying to regain their position in society, appreciating who they are and how best they relate with the other gender in a fulfilling and how naturally it ought to be.

The release of this book faced several criticisms mostly from the usual arguments from ignorant people who pick trending topics and want to jump onto without full knowledge. This is a must have book for anybody bringing a boy. Any man. And a great guidebook to anylady looking for a man to settle with and how to sustain that relationship. With excellent local and relatable scenarios and examples, you will not want to put this book down if you are a man.

Gift that boy. Gift that man this book and thank me later. I won’t charge for this advise.

I am interested in this book. The reviews are already telling me its a must read